Thinking with your eyes
Being a detective
Smart guesses based on Emotions
Non-verbal cues
Empathy
100
What am I thinking?
Students "think" with their eyes to guess what the leader is thinking (Adult model examples: looking an watch/what time is it, looking at drink/I'm thirsty, etc.)
100
Think back to the game we played "Who wants the ball?" What clue did we use to show we were ready to catch the ball? (What did we do with our face/body)
We made eye contact with the person who had the ball to show we were ready to catch it.
Bonus points for body orientation!
100
Use "List of Scenarios" #6
Read and model scenario.
How do they feel?
What can you do?
They are confused.
You can explain again slowly or offer to show them how to play the game.
100
Show the group how to tell someone to wait without using words
Demos NVC
100
If you see your friend is having a hard time with something what can you do?
Example: having a hard time with a math problem
Offer to help them!
Ask them if they want help
200
Practice: Pick a student to practice thinking with their eyes. Have the leader or opposing team guess what they are thinking
Both student who modeled "thinking with your eyes" and student who guessed (if correct) get points!
200
Be a detective. How does she feel? Why?
She is sad. She feels left out. She wants attention from her Mom.
200
Use "List of Scenarios" #10
Read and model scenario.
How do they feel?
What can you do?
She is annoyed/frustrated
You should wait until your mom is done talking with the neighbor and then tell her the information. Next time remember to say excuse me!
200
Without using words show the group how to tell someone to be quiet AND how to tell someone to stop
Demos NVC
200
James is scared of flying.
Tiffany loves flying and thinks its so fun!
Who is right?
Nobody is right. Different situations can make people feel different emotions.
300
Think with your eyes:
Where is he going? How do you know?
He is going to work or church. He is dressed up very nice in a fancy suit. He is carrying a briefcase so he is probably going to work.
300
Whats going on in this picture?
How do these people feel? Why?
The man is angry because the woman is not supposed to use her phone in the movie theater.
The woman is annoyed that she is being told to put her phone away. She may also feel embarrassed that she got in trouble for breaking the rules.
The man and woman are in a movie theater. The man works there and the woman is a customer. She is on her phone when she is not supposed to be. He is telling her to put her phone away.
300
Use "List of Scenarios" #4
Read and model scenario.
How do they feel?
What can you do?
She is sad.
You can ask her if she wants to play with you.
300
Your mom keeps looking at her watch and tapping her foot. What is she telling you to do?
Hurry up
300
How would you feel if you were going to sleep over at a friends house?
Everyone has to answer to get the points!
Any emotion is correct, different situations can make people feel different emotions.
400
Why do we make eye contact?
-It shows that we are interested in talking to them
-It shows we are listening
-Its polite
-It's respectful
400
How does he feel? Why?
He is frustrated. He is having a hard time with his homework. He should ask for help!
400
Use "List of Scenarios" #13
Read and model scenario.
How do they feel?
What can you do?
They are happy/proud
You can tell them "good job!!"
400
What am I asking you to do?
(Adult demo NVC)
Student ID NVC
400
Why is it important to understand how someone else feels?
You need to understand how someone feels so you can respond the right way.
Example:
If someone is mad- they might need you to give them space
If someone is frustrated- they might need your help
If someone is sad- they might need a hug or want to talk to you
500
What is the difference between eye contact and "thinking with your eyes?"
Eye contact- you are looking directly at another person's eyes
Thinking with your eyes- you are using your eyes to look at another person's facial expression and what another person is looking at to get clues as to what they are thinking about or feeling
500
A good detective observes people to try and figure out what they are doing, how they feel, and what they are going to do next. What should you look at to figure out how someone feels?
Their facial expression and body language
500
Use "List of Scenarios" #3
Read and model scenario.
How do they feel?
What can you do?
He is hurt!
You should ask him "Are you okay?" and get an adult for help.
500
What are two other ways we can communicate without using words?
-Body language
-tone of voice
-non verbal cues
-facial expressions
500
What does "put yourself in someone else's shoes" mean?
It means to imagine you are in their position and imagine how you would feel.
It means try to understand how someone else feels