Stages of Development
If people respond to our needs when we are babies, we learn to _______
What is trust?
"Secure attachment" means I rely on myself AND others to meet my _________.
What are needs?
The Self-Critic often has a very negative way of doing what?
Trying to help us
In this stage of grief, we might say, "I'm fine - it's fine - everything's fine."
What is denial?
Healthy boundaries are not about an excessive "yes" or "no," but about this.
What is "how much"?
When we learn "it's ok to be me" (the second stage of development) we develop this positive quality, instead of self-doubt.
What is confidence?
"Anxious attachment" means I have a low self-image, and a higher opinion of ____________.
What is other people?
You are human, and all humans do this from time to time.
What is make mistakes?
In this stage of grief, we might hear someone yell, "Nobody understands so why don't you just all leave me alone?!"
What is anger?
The same walls that keep out pain also keep out this.
What is love?
As adults, if we don't develop the ability to connect with others, we may end up feeling very _______.
What is lonely (or isolated)?
If I have an avoidant attachment style, I may have trouble forming these.
What are relationships?
Treat yourself as you would treat __________
What is "others"?
In this stage of grief, we might notice someone withdrawing, not responding to messages, staying in bed.
Boundaries are about finding the sweet spot where we benefit each other in the relationship, without constantly doing this.
What is hurting each other?
As teenagers, these people become important influences in our lives.
What are friends/peers?
If I don't believe that anyone can ever meet my needs, I may have this attachment style.
What is fearful (or disorganized)?
Noticing how you're feeling, without judging it, or immediately trying to change it, is called this.
What is mindfulness?
This is an important stage of grief, in which we begin to feel ready to make changes in how we're living.
What is "the upward turn"?
We can either have fear-based boundaries, or boundaries based on this.
What is love?
When young people are encouraged to explore new values and ideas, we develop a strong sense of _______.
What is identity?
True or false - our attachment styles can change over time, in different circumstances, and with different people.
What is TRUE!
In the video we watched, the main character's negative words to herself turned into these.
What are links in a chain?
True or false - once we achieve acceptance, our grieving journey is over.
False! Grief is a cyclical journey.
Healthy boundaries are less rigid, and more this.
What is flexible?