Friendship Problems
Name the four types of FRIENDSHIP PROBLEMS
Physical, Social, Verbal, & Cyber
What does FBI stand for?
Face, Body, Information
What does CIA stand for?
Cool It (before) Action
What does CHOICES mean?
CHOICES means that we have a variety of options that we can choose from in responding to Friendship Problems. Some have good consequences, or results, and some have bad consequences.
What is a bystander?
The people who are present, but not directly involved in the Friendship Problem/bullying. They are standing nearby a conflict or tough situation.
What is a Physical Friendship Problem?
When one kid hurts or tries to hurt another kid’s body (for example, by hitting, pushing, or threatening to hurt someone).
What two types of body clues are used to figure out how you are feeling?
Inside body clues and Outside body clues
When you’re not 100% sure that someone hurt you on purpose, what should you do?
Assume An Accident (AAA)
Give 2 examples of Let it Slide CHOICES.
Ignore it
Walk away
Try to get more information
Go play with someone else or do something different
What is Perspective Taking?
When we think about the other person’s side of the story
Name two places where Friendship Problems are likely to happen.
Examples (need 2):
Explain what someone’s face looks like when they are mad.
Responses will vary. May include:
A group of kids is sitting together at lunch. You walk by and hear them making fun of you.
Which CIA strategy could you use in this situation?
Responses will vary. May include:
Name 2 Do’s or Don’ts for Say it Strong Statements.
Responses will vary. May include:
What does Empathy mean?
Being able to imagine how someone else feels and caring about their feelings
What is a Cyber Friendship Problem?
A Friendship Problem that takes place via Internet, texting, or social media.
What does FBI help us figure out about ourselves?
FBI helps us figure out how we are feeling.
Why do we use CIA?
We use CIA as a strategy to calm down when we are upset, BEFORE we react and make a poor decision.
Why do we use LET IT SLIDE CHOICES?
To make the problem smaller.
To show that the Friendship Problem is not a big deal to you.
How could a bystander make the situation worse?
Bystanders can make a situation worse by:
Laughing at the victim
Joining in on the bullying
Not telling an adult
What is a Social Friendship Problem?
When someone leaves someone else out on purpose, or does something to hurt that person’s reputation or feelings.
Why do we use FBI with Others?
FBI with Others helps us figure out how other people may be feeling. We use it to determine if a problem or behavior happened by accident or on purpose.
Why is it important to calm down before reacting to a Friendship Problem?
When we’re upset or angry, we often make bad choices and can get hurt or get into trouble if we don’t calm down first. Once calm, we can think about our CHOICES.
Imagine that you are at recess and you hear a rumor about your classmate. What is a CHOICE that you could make that will have a good consequence? What is a CHOICE that can have a bad consequence?
CHOICE(s) with Good consequence: Tell a nearby adult; Not spread the rumor
CHOICE(s) with Bad consequence: Not tell an adult; Continue spreading the rumor
Imagine that you are with your friends on the schoolyard. You see a kid from another class bullying a kid in your class. What could you do to be a positive bystander (and help your classmate)?
Responses will vary.