Disrespectful vs. Respectful Communication
Fix this: Move, you're in my way!
Options: "Can I get by please?", "excuse me, can I get by?"
Healthy or Unhealthy? and why?
A friend listening when you are upset.
Healthy because it is supportive and shows care
What would be the proper way to act?
Someone cuts in front of you in line.
Answers:
Ask them politely to move
Let it go
Say excuse me (watch the tone)
What does it mean to include someone? (extra 50 points if you can act it out)
Answers:
Inviting Someone
Letting Someone Join
Talking to Someone New
What is self-control? Please give an example
Self-control is the ability to manage your actions, words, and emotions.
Ex. Stopping to think before we act
Fix this: (someone says the wrong answer) You're stupid
Options: i don't think that was right, I think the right answer is..., Could you explain your answer?
Healthy or Unhealthy? and why?
A friend pressures you to do something you don't want to do.
(bonus 50 points, what should a healthy friend do instead?)
Unhealthy, doesn't respect your choice and is pressuring you
bonus: respect your choice, not pressure you into something you don't wanna do.
What can we do to not lose control?
You are feeling frustrated during a online gaming session?
Possible Answers:
Take a breath
Step away from the game
Someone is sitting alone at lunch.
What is TWO inclusive actions you could take?
Invite them to sit with you
Go sit with them
Talk to them
What is respectful communication?
Respectful communication is talking to others in a way that considers their feelings and does not intentionally hurt them or make them feel less than.
Fix two of the following with tone. Say how you think it is being said and how you would change it.
Just leave me alone!
That's not my problem
I don't care!
Whatever!
:)
Healthy or Unhealthy? and why?
A friend jokes about you in front of others and says: "Relax, I'm just joking" (You told them you were offended)
Unhealthy because it can makes you feel excluded, disrespected, or embarrassed.
Name 3 signs that your emotions are getting to high? (Extra 50 points, if you can name 5)
Possible Answers:
Clenched Fists, Fast Heart Rate, Feeling Hot, Becoming Anxious, Wanting to Yell, Tight Chest, and More.
What are 3 reasons someone might feel left out even if no one is being "mean" to them?
Answers:
Feeling ignored, Not feeling included, Has different interests, Is new to the group, Is a shy person, Feels intimidated by the group
realizing we are always growing and failure is not the end but only the beginning.
Does tone matter in our responses? and why?
(For 100 points, each person gives an example of how tone changes meaning of a word or phrase)
Yes they do! They change the way words and phrases are perceived
A group of friends always decides what to do without including one person. When that person speaks up, they say: "you're too sensitive"
Is this healthy or unhealthy, and why?
(Bonus: 50 points, how would a healthier friend group respond?)
Unhealthy because we are excluding someone, making them feel unimportant, making them feel disrespected, or invalidating their feelings.
Bonus: apologize and ask what they wanna do, try to compromise, include everyone.
How would this scenario look as a controlled reaction and a explosive reaction? Explain your answer
Someone says something disrespectful to you in front of others.
Controlled - Walk away, say you were offended in a calm tone, don't react
Explosive - Yell at them, curse at them, Crash out :),
Scenario:
A group is working together. No one is being mean, but one student hasn't spoken at all and no one asks for their ideas.
What is missing in this situation? Explain your answer (Bonus 100 points, if can act out how you could include said person)
Answer:
Inclusion, Giving everyone a voice, Participation, Awareness
What is Empathy? Bonus 100 points if you can give an example of an empathetic situation (Act it out)
Empathy is understanding how someone feels, imagining their situation, and responding in a caring way.
Putting yourself in someone else's shoes
Two students disagree during a group project. One raises their voice and interrupts the other.
What are some respectful communication strategies they could use instead?
Possible answers: Take turns speaking, Using a calm tone, Listening before responding, say "i see your point, but...", ask questions instead of interrupting
Red Flag or Not? (Choose 2, and explain why)
- A friend gets upset when you hang with others, but also hangs out with others.
- They say "I'm just joking" when you tell them you were offended or hurt by what they did or said.
- Is always calling you names you don't like to be called
1. Red Flag - Hypocritical, and just generally unhealthy to try and control someone.
2. Red Flag - Offensive, Disrespectful, and showing they don't care about your feelings.
3. Depends, but most likely a Red Flag.
You reacted aggressively when you got angry.
What are TWO possible consequences of that choice AND what could you have done to prevent it?
Possible Answers:
Get into trouble, Ruin a Friendship, Hurt Someone.
Done to prevent it:
Taken a step back, paused for a moment and thought about the consequences, Expressed myself without anger
Why is inclusivity important in a group or classroom? Give 3 reasons
Answers:
People feel safer, Team work tends to be better, More ideas can be introduced, Stronger relationships are formed, Everyone feels like they are part of the group.
What was the phrase i kept repeating throughout the program?
You can only control your actions, not how others respond.