S/M/L Problems
You see smoke coming from the school building.
Big Problem! Immediately tell an adult.
Disrespectful
How do you show kindness to a new student?
John invites you to play freeze tag, but your friend Amy doesn't want to play and you promised her you would play with her today. What can you do?
1) Make a deal with Amy, to play with her this recess and John the next.
2) Talk it out with John, you promised Amy you'd play with her today and can play with him later
When you are upset you can...
Your friend is upset with you because you didn't play with them yesterday.
Small problem. You can apologize to your friend and ask if you can play today.
In class I show that I'm listening by...
1) Eyes on the teacher
2) Body facing the teacher
3) Sitting up nice and tall
You notice that Tanner is having a hard time solving the math problem next to you. What can you do to help Tanner?
Ask Tanner what he's stuck on. If you know then you can try to help him. If you don't know you can ask the teacher a question.
Your friend said something mean to you that really hurt your feelings. They apologized. What are your options?
1) Accept their apology.
2) Say you need some more time.
Your friend is feeling really sad because something happened at home. How can you make them feel better?
Listen to them, offer them a hug, let them know you're here for them, ask if they want to talk to an adult.
Linda is having a hard time with her reading homework and lost her reading log. She got a bad grade on her last reading log and is nervous about telling the teacher.
Small problem. Linda can ask her parents and teacher for help in finding her reading log. If she's honest than she has the chance to ask for more time to complete her log.
You're talking to your friend Carrie, but she's ignoring you because the teacher is talking. Is Carrie being disrespectful or respectful?
Respectful, in-class you should be paying attention to your teacher.
Your friend tells you something embarrassing that happened. What can you do?
Keep it to yourself, you wouldn't want you friend to share something embarrassing about you.
Ginny is handing out birthday invitations and you don't get one. What are your options?
1) Think it over, maybe she only invited two or three people that she's really close to.
2) Talk to Ginny, tell her how you're feeling. Maybe you can schedule another time to hang out.
Write about your feelings, talk to your friend, ask to talk to a trusted adult, take some deep breaths, ask for a break
Two of your friends were twisting on the swings, you know they aren't supposed to. One of them falls from the swings and gets seriously hurt.
Big problem! If someone is hurt you should immediately ask for an adult's help. Even if they were doing something they weren't supposed to be doing.
In the lunchroom you're lining up and you see there's some trash left on the table, you can...
Help pick it up, even if it's not yours.
You were upset and talking back to your teacher. They got upset and sent you to the principal's office. What can you say to your teacher when you get back to class?
I'm sorry for talking back during class. I know when I'm in class I should be focusing on my work.
You hear from Izzy that Jim is talking about you behind your back. What can you do?
1) Let it go
2) Talk to Jim and ask what's going on
Sam and Riley made plans to meet up after school without you. You feel jealous and left out. What can you do?
1) Ask if you can join them
2) Ask if they'd like to hang out another time
3) Let it go, there's always next time!
You are walking around with your family at the mall but end up getting lost, you don't have a phone to call them with.
Medium problem. You can ask a security guard or store worker for help to borrow their phone to call your family.
What is the golden rule?
Treat others the way you would want to be treated.
What can you do to help someone when they're having a bad day?
Give them space, Draw something for them, Give a compliment, Ask them how you can help
You hear your friend Kathy whispering and looking at you. When you come over she stops. What can you do?
1) Ignore it.
2) Change the topic.
3) Use an I statement ( EX: I feel uncomfortable when you whisper, I feel upset when you whisper like that because it makes me think you're talking about me, etc.)
Why is it good to talk about your feelings rather then keeping them to yourself?
Expressing your feelings makes you feel better, it also allows other people the chance to understand and help you.