Compromise Steps
What is the general definition of compromise?
Both people or groups give a little bit so they can move forward and get some of what they both want (everyone wins some)
What is something you should not compromise about? You only need one answer
Someone feels unsafe
It involves laws/expectations, cheating, or bullying
It goes against personal values
Two students both need the same set of markers at the same time. (must use a sentence starter)
Let’s agree to...share the markers.
What is the first step of pause and cool off?
STOP
What does the S stand for in the STEP method?
Say the problem.
What is the first step of the compromise formula?
Say what you want
Give two examples of a sentence starter to begin a compromise.
I would like _____ because ______.
I hear that you want ______. What if we ______?
I want ___ because ___.
We could both ___ by ___.
Let’s agree to ___.
I prefer blank___.
A fair plan could be ______.
One student wants to work quickly, while another prefers to take their time. (use a different sentence starter)
I would like to work quickly because I want to be done.
I would like to work slowly because I want a good grade.
Compromise: How about you work slowly on this part and I work quickly on this part.
What is a part of the pause and cool off problem solving strategy that deals with breathing?
What does the T stand for in the STEP method?
Think of solutions (options)
What is the second step of the compromise formula?
Listen to what the other person wants
How should you speak with the person you are attempting to compromise with?
Respectfully, nicely, etc.
You want to go home right after school, but your friend wants to stay for a club. (Use a different sentence starter)
I hear that you want to stay after school. How about I stay for part of the club until you feel comfortable. Then I'll leave.
What is a part of the pause and cool off problem solving strategy that involves counting?
Count backwards from 10
What do the E and P stand for in the STEP method?
Explore consequences and Pick the best one (solution)
What is the third step of the compromise formula?
Find a middle ground
Based on the video we watched, how could negotiation or compromise skills help you in the future?
You can get jobs, keep jobs, work well with others
Choosing a Movie for Class Reward. Half the class wants a comedy while the rest want an action movie (use a sentence starter).
Let's agree to find something that is funny but also action packed.
What is a part of the pause and cool off problem solving strategy that deals with water?
drink water
You want to sit by the window, but your partner wants the aisle seat.
S:
Both students want different seats.
T:
Switch seats halfway, flip a coin, or choose new seats.
E:
Switching allows both students to get what they want. flipping a coin might make someone mad, choose new seats no one gets what they want.
P:
Switch seats halfway through class.
What is the last step of the compromise formula?
Agree and Move Forward
What type of listening should you do when attempting to compromise?
Active
One student wants to listen to pop music, while another prefers instrumental music. (use a sentence starter)
A fair plan could be we switch off music types each song.
What is a part of the pause and cool off problem solving strategy that I often suggest in school even before we learned these strategies?
Ask for a break
You want to work alone, but your friend wants to work on homework together.
S:
One student wants to work independently; the other wants help.
T:
Work together first, then independently; meet after finishing.
E:
Working together first helps both understand the work and both get what you want. Meeting after finishing would help make sure you get what you both need done and both do it well. It might be hard to work separately.
P:
Work together for part of the time, then work alone.