a. Two or more people together over time
b. Related by blood and/or agreement
c. Meets each family member’s need to be an individual and to belong
100
Two main jobs for a parent
a. Leader
b. Model
100
Four tips for listening
What is
a. Eye contact
b. Sounds or quiet
c. Nods
d. Repeat some of the words or feelings
e. Avoid roadblocks
100
First two things to solving a problem
What is State the problem and write the results you want.
100
In passing your values to your children you have to
What is Know Your Own Values
200
Each person has two basic needs
What is are Be Somebody and Belong
200
Parents as leaders must follow three rules
a. Make rules
b. Stick together
c. Stay in charge
200
Rules for Family Meetings
What is
a. Set a weekly meeting
b. Meet for no more than one hour
c. Each person has a chance to speak
d. Listen when others are speaking
e. No criticisms or teasing
200
Second and third things you do in solving a problem
What is List all possible solutions to get the result and review the list together.
200
Primary influence on family values
What is Parents
300
Worksheet to help parents communicate with children
What is How Well Do You Know Your Children
300
Three things family rule must have
a. Rule
b. Consequence
c. Reward
300
Three things that need to be covered during the family meetings
What is
a. What’s working
b. What needs to be fixed
c. What we can do together
300
Fourth and fifth thing to do in solving a problem
What is Have each person choose two solutions that they are willing to carry out and Decide together on the solution to implement
300
Determining your values
What is Think about and decide what you believe in
400
Three family patterns to meet family needs
What are
a. Adults are in charge
b. Room to be close and apart
c. Expect to change
400
As models there are four things a parent must do
a. Plan time with your children
b. Encourage your children
c. Listen to your children
d. Talk together with your children
400
Four family stages
1. Couples
2. Family with a young child
3. Family with adolescent
4. Family with adult children
400
Three steps to carry out the plan for solving problems
What is
1. Decide what tasks need to be done, who will handle each task and what time or day it will be done.
2. Meet to reevaluate
3. Get outside help if the problem continues
400
Next step after you decide what you believe in
What is Talk it over with your partner
500
Three skills that will make healthy families
What are
a. Speaking
b. Listening
c. Cooperating
500
First rule for adults in relationships
What is be a team
500
General rules or expectations for change in families
What are
a. Expect change
b. Stress is the signal that change is needed
c. Expect to feel resistance in you and others
d. Take one new step at a time
e. Get outside help when you get stuck
500
Six steps in solving problems
What is
a. Schedule a meeting
b. Have an Agenda
c. Brainstorm for possible solutions
d. Choose a solution
e. Make a plan of action
f. Evaluate the solution in two week
500
Four steps in passing your values to your children
What is
a. Know you own values
b. State your values
c. Make rules that support your values.
d. Get outside help if you need it