Know Way, Jose
What is a fun date idea that lets you get to know someone?
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Free, creative, not too long.
What do you trust your boyfriend/girlfriend to do?
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Do they know what your expectations are.
What is a green flag to show someone is a reliable partner?
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Increase your own reliability first?
Act out how to break up.
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Should you stay friends?
What is the "speed limit" for touching before you are officially dating?
No opinion without evidence (use Strength of Youth, own life experience, scriptures, talks, research. etc)
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Touch is the fruit, not the root.
(Just because you held hands/kissed, don't feel pressured to commit to a relationship. Kiss-takes happen. Just make sure you communicate to the other person why you are uncomfortable and want to end it, instead of kiss-and-run.)
What visible signs show you someone is trustworthy?
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Who do want raising your kids?
Use the family proclamation:
How do you know if your potential partner would be a good parent?
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What traits will you develop together and what traits do you want find "ready made" in your spouse?
What is a red flag showing unreliability in a potential partner?
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Do you ever fall into that trap yourself?
Connect D&C 8:2 to receiving revelation about whom to date and marry.
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/8?lang=eng&id=p2#p2
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How can you keep yourself open to revelation while dating?
Act out a good way to ask if a teammate (pretending to be a romantic interest 👀) wants to hold hands.
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A good rule of thumb is to be selfless, not selfish.
Pres. Oaks encourages us to ask, "Where will this lead?"
How can we apply that teaching as we get to know people in dating?
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It is hard to know where it will lead in regard to break up or marriage. Is there another outcome we can look for from dating?
Name three qualities you want to develop to prepare for marriage.
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Many strengths are developed together with your spouse. How do you know what to prepare for before marriage vs. what comes with time?
You will become like your spouse.
To prepare for marriage, what is a trait you've seen in another person you want to emulate?
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What traits would make a great parent?
Find a quote from a general authority about when to enter a dating relationship.
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What are you committing to at different stages of dating?
Find a scripture to guide your decisions about when and how to kiss.
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Is this scripture a good guide for when you are in public as well as private? Do the rules of engagement change when you are around other people?
Categories game! Topic: things to know about a person before getting engaged.
Winner takes points.
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Life/relationships like a house.
What about things that are more sensitive that you would only share with a fiance/spouse?
Find a scripture to help you trust the Lord's timing in dating/finding a spouse.
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Not all dating is to find a spouse--often it is to help you become a good spouse. Don't stress and ask, "Is this the one?" or "Am I leading him/her on?" Have fun and let yourself learn by dating. Jesus can heal all wounds if we accidentally cause or receive any.
You will become like your spouse.
What is a quality you hope he/she has?
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If you are like them in ten years, will you like who you are?
Find a scripture that gives guidance about when to break up with someone.
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How do you avoid constantly stressing about whether or not to break it off?
(Emma says, "When in doubt, kick them out.")
What is the "speed limit" for touching while you are officially dating?
No opinion without evidence (use Strength of Youth, own life experience, scriptures, talks, research. etc)
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Don't accelerate toward the next speed limit sign. The commitment post has to pass before you can accelerate.
It can be hard to focus on growing your knowledge of someone when the more exciting steps start (commit & touch).
How do you keep know as the highest level in longer-lasting relationships?
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Mom and Dad, how do you keep getting to know each other?
Find a scripture you can apply to the following question:
How do you know if a marriage/dating feeling is from you or the Spirit?
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All things will work together for good for those who love God.
At various stages in relationships, independence and interdependence will adjust.
Find a sound piece of advice you have read/heard to guide you in how much to rely on someone else during a stage of dating or marriage.
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I relied on Emma to show up and uplift me during dates. That encouraged me to commit to date her more seriously.
Make a short rap about when to commit to someone.
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You should want to, and they should want to.
(There is more to it than that, but it's important)
What is the "speed limit" for touching when you are officially engaged?
No opinion without evidence (use Strength of Youth, own life experience, scriptures, talks, research. etc)
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Self-indulgence and compromising situations