Definitions
R.A.P.P. stands for this.
What is the Relationship Abuse Prevention Program?
When you are upset about an issue with a friend, you calmly speak to them about how you feel and what you need from them.
What is communication?
True or false: You must give a verbal "no" to say no to someone's advances.
FALSE. There are many ways someone might say no with their body language, tone, or words besides a verbal "no."
Any behavior intended to cause bodily harm or injury. Examples: punching, pushing, kicking, slapping, hair pulling, pinching, choking.
What is physical abuse?
What should you pay attention to in someone's communication BESIDES the words they use?
Non-verbal communication (body language), tone
To actively, mutually agree to participate in something in an ongoing process.
What is consent?
You and your partner often disagree about how to spend time together; you always want to have one-on-one time while they more often want to hang out in a group. You decide to alternate between spending time alone and spending time with a group every other weekend.
What is compromise?
This is the age of consent in New York State.
17
Using words to assault, dominate, ridicule, manipulate, and/or degrade another person. Examples include insults, yelling, and name calling.
What is verbal abuse?
You are really angry with your boss for the way they called you out in front of the other employees last week. You don't say anything to her, but this week, you deliberately do a bad job at work and you leave a bad review for the restaurant online. You are using this communication style.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
What is a pattern of gaining or maintaining power and control over a partner?
What is relationship abuse/dating violence?
You are always joking with your partner. One day you accidentally take it too far and their feelings are hurt. You immediately apologize and let them know you will tone it down. You make an effort over the next few weeks to be kinder in how you speak to them.
What is accountability/taking responsibility?
True or false: you can revoke (take back) consent at any time, even in the middle of the sexual activity.
True
Preventing a partner from acquiring or using resources, or exploiting a partner’s resources. Examples include not letting someone go to school or work.
What is financial/economic abuse?
Your paycheck has been short by a few dollars for the past few weeks. You know it's not right, but you don't say anything to your boss. You hate getting into confrontation. You are using this communication style.
What is passive communication?
The limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships to be comfortable.
What are boundaries?
You and your partner take turns paying when you get food and snacks after school.
What is economic partnership?
This word describes when you persuade someone to do something using intimidation or threats.
What is coercion?
Use of digital media or devices to control, coerce, or intimidate. Examples include using a fake phone number or account after being blocked, repeated calls or messages to insult or threaten you, or tracking your location.
What is technological abuse?
Your friend tells you they won't be able to come to your birthday dinner, and you scream at them that they're a terrible friend and that you never want to see them again.
What is aggressive communication?
Any unwanted sexual attention that makes a person feel unsafe, uncomfortable or threatened.
What is sexual harassment?
Every Saturday, you and your partner give each other space to spend time with your own friends.
What is independence and autonomy?
Name one of the words that FRIES stands for when it comes to what needs to be present to have consent.
FREELY GIVEN
REVERSIBLE
INFORMED
ENTHUSIASTIC
SPECIFIC
Non-physical behaviors that are meant to humiliate, isolate, or instill fear. Examples include guilt tripping, blaming you for their mistakes, unfounded accusations, and controlling who you see or what you do.
What is emotional abuse?
Your friend says something unkind about one of your other close friends to you in private. You calmly say, "I understand that you might not get along with her, but it's important to me that you don't speak negatively about someone I love. I don't want to be involved in any gossip that could hurt her."
What is assertive communication?