Definitions
R.A.P.P. stands for this.
What is the Relationship Abuse Prevention Program?
When you are upset about an issue with a friend, you calmly tell them, "I felt hurt when you canceled our plans last minute because I had already spent time traveling to hang out with you and I could have spent that time doing other things. I need for you to give me a little more warning if you are going to cancel plans next time."
What is communication?
Consent is about doing things you really WANT to do, and are excited to do! (Hint: starts with an E)
What is Enthuasiastic?
Any behavior intended to cause bodily harm or injury. Examples: punching, pushing, kicking, slapping, hair pulling, pinching, choking.
What is physical abuse?
What should you pay attention to in someone's communication BESIDES the words they use?
Non-verbal communication (body language), tone
To actively, mutually agree to participate in something in an ongoing process.
What is consent?
You attend your partner's basketball games and they attend your band's concerts.
What is support?
Consent is not pressured, coerced, manipulated, or forced in any way. (Hint: F____ G____)
What is FREELY GIVEN?
Using words to assault, dominate, ridicule, manipulate, and/or degrade another person. Examples include insults, yelling, and name calling.
What is verbal abuse?
You are really angry with your boss for the way they called you out in front of the other employees last week. You don't say anything to her, but this week, you deliberately do a bad job at work and you leave a bad review for the restaurant online. You are using this communication style.
What is passive-aggressive communication?
What is a pattern of gaining or maintaining power and control over a partner?
What is relationship abuse/dating violence?
You are always joking with your partner and one day you accidentally take it too far and their feelings are hurt. When you see how you've hurt them, you immediately apologize and let them know you will tone it down. You make an effort over the next few weeks to be kinder in how you speak to them and be mindful of how your jokes might impact them.
What is accountability/taking responsibility?
Consent is limited to a particular act and time. Saying yes to one thing does not mean saying yes to everything. (Hint: starts with an S)
What is SPECIFIC?
Preventing a partner from acquiring or using resources, or exploiting a partner’s resources. Examples include not letting someone go to school or work.
What is financial/economic abuse?
Your paycheck has been short by a few dollars for the past few weeks. You know it's not right, but you don't say anything to your boss. You hate getting into confrontation. You are using this communication style.
What is passive communication?
The limits and rules we set for ourselves within relationships to be comfortable.
What are boundaries?
You and your partner take turns paying when you get food and snacks after school.
What is economic partnership?
Everyone is fully aware of potential consequences and risks of the action, including those related to STIs, pregnancy, etc.
(Hint: starts with an I)
What is INFORMED?
Use of digital media or devices to control, coerce, or intimidate. Examples include using a fake phone number or account after being blocked, repeated calls or messages to insult or threaten you, or tracking your location.
What is technological abuse?
Your friend tells you they won't be able to come to your birthday dinner, and you scream at them that they're a terrible friend and that you never want to see them again.
What is aggressive communication?
Any unwanted sexual attention that makes a person feel unsafe, uncomfortable or threatened.
What is sexual harassment?
Every Saturday, you and your partner give each other space to spend time with your own friends.
What is independence and autonomy?
Consent can be taken back at any time. Everyone is allowed to change their mind! (Hint: starts with an R)
What is REVERSIBLE?
Non-physical behaviors that are meant to humiliate, isolate, or instill fear. Examples include guilt tripping, blaming you for their mistakes, unfounded accusations, and controlling who you see or what you do.
What is emotional abuse?
Your friend says something unkind about one of your other close friends to you in private. You calmly say, "I understand that you might not get along with her, but it's important to me that you don't speak negatively about someone I love. I don't want to be involved in any gossip that could hurt her."
What is assertive communication?