Positive Attitudes for Change
Are you being honest with the people around you and more importantly, with yourself?
Honesty
When confronted with something that happened, do you point to circumstances or to other people and blame them? This is about taking ownership.
Blaming
Do you ignore or dismiss people without letting them be heard?
Cutoff
Do you leverage word choice to make things more extreme or intense than they need to be?
Loaded Words
Do you feel that you're special or that your circumstances are different?
Entitlement
Are you supporting the people around you?
Caring
Do you use language that prevents you from being objective, like declaring something is "the best" and refusing to entertain any other perspectives or opinion? This is closely tied to open-mindedness.
Absolutes
Do you seek to assert your dominance in conversations as a way of inflating your own stature in a group or community?
Power Orientation
Do you engage in false empathy or kindness which is only to make yourself look good?
Sentimentality
Do you attempt to manipulate people by asking questions without expecting an answer, in order to make others feel uncomfortable?
Are you taking ownership and able to focus on your own role in the circumstances rather than looking for someone to blame?
Responsibility
Do you look at things in an over-confident way, believing you can navigate any situation and ignoring the potential consequences of your actions?
Super-optimism
Do you present your "wants" as "needs" and insist they be a certain way? This type of thinking is a direct path to increased agitation and negative consequences. This is closely tied to humility.
Demands
Do you take the easy way out or path of least resistance? This is commonly referred to as lazy thinking.
Cognitive Indolence
What does the SMART acronym stand for?
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Rewarding, Timebound
Are you willing to accept feedback about your behavior and open to the idea that you (likely) must change the way you approach life and those around you?
Open-Mindedness
Do you make excuses or justify your negative behavior because of something you've done to "make it right?" Many who engaged in white collar crime have struggled with this thinking error.
Mollification
The 'B' in Rational Self-Analysis
Beliefs
Do you write off a situation, assuming you're unable to achieve or tolerate something simply because it makes you uncomfortable? This ties with demands and absolutes.
I Can't
Do you make assumptions without consideration of the whole picture, and present them as fact? This is closely tied to objectivity.
Statement of Fact
Are you waking up every day and putting in the work necessary for recovery?
Willingness
The 'A' in Rational Self-Analysis
Activating Event
Do you focus on the bad or negative parts of a situation and totally ignore the good that can come from a situation?
Awfulizing
The 'C' in Rational Self-Analysis.
Consequences
Are you easily sidetracked to the point where you do not follow through with the commitments you make to those around you?
Discontinuity