Dating
When asking someone on a date, is it okay to ask what their interests are? *Bonus points if you can give an example*
Yes! That way you can plan a date that involves both of your interest! This is great for building a relationship.
What is an example of a body language that is letting you know this person does not want to be bothered? How can you respect their space?
Their head is down, very quiet and not responding to anyone, closed off body language.
By letting them know you're here for them when they're ready to talk or by not saying anything to them until they feel ready to speak
Ali feels anxious about introducing a new friend to an anime show. She is not sure if this friend would like it or judge her. How can Ali communicate her worries to her friend?
Being okay with someone not agreeing with you and still being friends!
Being honest with this new friend about how she feels!
DO OR DON'T: It is okay to wear noise canceling headphones when someone is talking to you
DON'T!!!
Why? Because you cannot engage in conversation with someone when you can't hear them
Callie has a secret! Her brother is a cowboy from the deep south! Everyone do your best country/southern accent!
Amazing!! Y'ALL sound like you love flannel shirts and cowboy boots!
Alistair wants to send a DM to someone he is interested in hanging out with. What are some *appropriate* opening lines he can use?
Alex B. has her arms crossed and is rolling her eyes as Pat is talking to her. What is her body language saying?
Acceptable Answers: Alex B is uninterested, has an attitude, is bored or upset.
Finn really enjoys talking about his favorite shows/movies and someone in the class says "I HATE ANIME AND FRIDAY NIGHT AT FREDDY'S". How should Finn respond?
Finn is shocked, appalled, aghast, and falls out on the floor in shock. BUT then he remembers that its okay for people have opinions that differ from his and can ask that peer what they’re interest are!
DO OR DON'T: You can hold hands or hug someone without asking.
BOTH! You can hug your family members without asking but with friends, teachers, or someone you just met, you have to ask permission!
What does TIP stand for?
Taha asks Alister advice on if he should take his date to listen to his favorite artist. Alister responds "Of course, I'm sure they would enjoy it". Did Allister give good advice?
Taking your date to view your interests is a great idea! How can Taha make sure he includes the dates interest as well?
Resources/Options: Ask his date if she likes listening to his favorite artist to make sure they have a good time
True or False: Talking to someone with your back turned away from them can be seen as you not listening.
True. If you're washing hands and someone is talking to you, what's something you can do or say to show you are listening?
True of False: Healthy communication looks like asking someone their social security number and mother's date of birth when you first meet.
FALSE!! Wayyy too personal and also not information that concerns you. Beware of personal questions.
DO OR DON'T: Someone you're interested in gives you their number. You called them twice and they did not answer. You also texted them 3 times with no response. Its okay to keep reaching out to them until you get an answer.
DON'T!!!!! This is the quickest way to make someone feel uncomfortable. Just because they gave you their number does not mean they are required to respond. Sometimes silence is the only answer you need to no longer reach out.
What are the 4 points of starting a conversation we learned in class? *hint: looking around, shared interests, nice statements, and a statement ending in a specific punctuation*
Compliments, questions, connections, and observations
Expressing eagerness for going on the date AND letting them know this is a place where you're not comfortable.
Suggesting a new place, ask if there was something special about the place they suggested and finding a compromise
Callie is speaking is not smiling, speaking very softly, keeps her head down when she talks and is not her usual self. By her body language, what could this mean?
Callie could be having a bad day or just does not feel in the mood. Everyone is allowed to have days where they are not themselves.
Pat really wants to eat at his favorite restaurant with his friend but his friend does not want to eat there. What can Pat do or say?
Compromise!
DO OR DON'T: When ordering at The Daily, greet the person at the counter before giving your order.
DO!! We always want to be sure to greet people (good morning, afternoon, evening, Hi, Hello, Hola). Sometimes you can be super focused on getting you're order right that we forget other important parts serive etiquette
What are at least 2 mindfulness skills you can use when feeling overwhelmed or irritated?
You're right! Great Job!
Alex B is on a date with someone she likes. She thinks this person is kind, funny, and nice. However, she feels like she has run out of things to say! What are some great conversation savers or starters? How can Alex calm herself down enough to think through her options?
Mindfulness skills!
If your answers aren't too personal or could make the other person feel uncomfortable, you're correct!!
Pick a classmate and a topic below. Demonstrate 2 types of an engaged and interested body language during the 45-60 second conversation.
Topics: a favorite trip you've taken, your least favorite activity, or why Real Talk is the best class ever
AMAZINGGGGGGGGG!!!!
Uh oh! Another student burst in the room and *accidentally* interrupted the flow of the class. What is the BEST (and kindest) way to respond?
Greet the student and allow them the space to observe class.
Greet the student and focus back on the discussion
Greet the student and tell them to have a nice day
DO OR DON'T: Speak the entire time on a date without letting the other person speak. You can interrupt them because it show's you're listening, right?
WRONG! Conversation 101: everyone needs to be heard with no interruptions. you can use facial expressions or body language to show you are listening.
A peer at school, who struggles to control their body movements, bumps into you and knocks your items on the ground. What is a way to express frustration AND be kind/understanding at the same time?
"Oh no! My things! It's okay, I know you can't help it AND I don't blame you"
"I understand it was an accident, though I am still frustrated at picking up my items"
"I know they can't help it and I need a break to express my frustration by myself"