đź’ŻWhat Are They Thinking? (Perspective-taking)
Your friend is quiet and looking at their phone after you canceled plans last minute.
👉 What are they likely thinking/feeling?
âś… Answer: Hurt, annoyed, or feeling unimportant
You accidentally interrupt someone while they’re talking.
👉 What’s an appropriate solution?
âś… Answer: Apologize and let them finish
Instead of: “That’s dumb.”
👉 Say it better.
✅ Answer: “I don’t really agree with that” or “I see it differently”
Crossed arms + no talking
👉 Feeling?
âś… Answer: Defensive, upset, or closed off
Your friend doesn’t invite you to hang out but posts pics with others.
👉 What might they feel? What should you do?
âś… Answer:
A classmate rolls their eyes when the teacher assigns a group project.
👉 What might they be thinking?
✅ Answer: They don’t like group work / feel frustrated / think others won’t do their part
You forgot to text your friend back for 2 days.
👉 What should you do?
âś… Answer: Apologize and explain briefly
Instead of ignoring someone who says hi to you.
👉 What should you say?
✅ Answer: “Hey” or greet them back
Laughing but looking away and fidgeting
👉 Feeling?
âś… Answer: Nervous or uncomfortable
Someone leaves you on read but responds in the group chat.
👉 Perspective + solution?
âś… Answer:
Your friend replies “It’s fine” but avoids eye contact and gives short answers.
👉 What are they actually feeling?
âś… Answer: Upset, bothered, or not actually fine
Two friends are arguing in your group chat.
👉 What’s a good response?
âś… Answer: Stay neutral, suggest calming down or taking it private
Instead of: “Whatever.” during a disagreement
👉 Say it better.
✅ Answer: “I see your point, but I still feel differently”
Sighing loudly and putting head down
👉 Feeling?
âś… Answer: Frustrated, tired, or overwhelmed
A partner in a project isn’t doing their work.
👉 What should you do?
âś… Answer: Talk to them directly or involve teacher if needed
Someone posts a vague story: “People are fake.”
👉 What might they be thinking/feeling?
âś… Answer: Hurt, betrayed, or frustrated with someone
You realize you said something that embarrassed your friend in front of others.
👉 What should you do?
âś… Answer: Apologize privately and acknowledge their feelings
Instead of calling someone out in front of others
👉 What’s a better approach?
âś… Answer: Talk to them privately
Avoiding someone and sitting far away
👉 Feeling?
âś… Answer: Upset, avoiding conflict, or uncomfortable
You hear someone talking about you but aren’t sure if it’s true.
👉 Best response?
âś… Answer: Clarify calmly instead of confronting aggressively
A teammate stops passing you the ball during a game after you missed a shot.
👉 What are they likely thinking?
✅ Answer: They don’t trust you right now / frustrated about performance
Someone keeps making jokes that bother you but thinks it’s “just funny.”
👉 What’s an appropriate solution?
âś… Answer: Calmly tell them how it makes you feel and set a boundary
Instead of responding aggressively when annoyed
👉 What should you say?
✅ Answer: Use calm words like “That bothered me” or “Can we talk about it?”
Smiling but with tense body and short responses
👉 Feeling?
âś… Answer: Fake happiness / masking discomfort
Your friend starts acting different around a new group.
👉 Perspective + response?
âś… Answer: