Positive Attitudes for Success
Having integrity and being truthful and genuine.
Honesty
A person making changes can serve as a role model for others.
Lead by Example
Stop and Think
"You're always on my case. Why don't you just back off!"
Aggressive communication
members of your family who will support you in your positive life change efforts by holding you accountable for your behavior.
supportive family members
Being appreciative and showing thanks
Gratitude
Your feelings and actions are the result of your beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes. recognize and challenge irrational beliefs.
Examine your thinking.
Seek help and support.
"I thought that maybe...you could, um..."
Passive communication
individuals who demonstrate by example a healthy lifestyle.
mentors and role models
Making a choice to be open, ready, and eager for something. Not cutting corners. Fulfilling obligations with honest effort.
Willingness
Recognize that the rational thing to do in any situation may not always be what you want to do.
Explore what's in your best interest
Do this so that you are not surprised by situations that trigger uncomfortable emotions. develop a plan for how you will avoid risky situations
be prepared
"I don't care if you don't come to visit. I'll just sit here alone."
Passive aggressive communication
Individuals who do not engage in criminal behavior
healthy peers
Being flexible and willing to change. Being willing to consider new ideas and being understanding when you receive feedback from peers and staff.
Open - mindedness
Use rewards
You want to do this so that you have multiple ways that you can respond to a situation.
keep your options open
"I'd like to talk about the way we've been getting along."
Assertive Communication
Individuals who have special skills and knowledge that will support your efforts to change
skilled help
Being fair, impartial, and unbiased. Focusing on facts and not jumping to conclusions. Staying neutral when you don't have all of the facts.
Objectivity
Replacing negative thoughts, feelings, or behaviors with positive, responsible ones.
Use substitutes
If you're in a situation where you feel uncomfortable emotions beginning to rise, do this and tell yourself to relax
take a deep breath
Name the three elements of effective communication
listening, body language, talking
Helping relationships are important in each stage of change. In which of the stages will you need to rely on your support network the most?
Action