From the BIG BOOK,
What's the word defined?
What's the word defined?
(1.) The act of wandering from the right way; deviation from truth or moral rectitude.
(2.) Partial alienation of the mind; mental wandering
Aberration(s)
You might think that venting your anger is healthy, that the people around you are too sensitive, that your anger is justified, or that you need to show your fury to get respect. But the truth is that
anger is much more likely to have a negative impact on the way people see you, impair your judgment, and get in the way of success.
Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. After all, two people can’t be expected to agree on everything, all the time. The key is not
to fear or try to avoid conflict but to learn how to resolve it in a healthy way.
To cope with uncertainty, many of us use
worrying as a tool for trying to predict the future and avoid nasty surprises
What Is Assertiveness?
It is the ability to express your opinions positively and with confidence. Assertive people are in control of themselves and are honest with themselves and others.
(1.) Hostile; addicted to war; bellicose; warlike in attitude or intention. Threatening war.
Belligerent
Chronic anger that flares up all the time or spirals out of control can have serious consequences for your
Physical health, Mental health, Career, and Relationships.
Our perceptions are influenced by
our life experiences, culture, values, and beliefs.
Chronic worrying can't give you more control over uncontrollable events; it just
robs you of enjoyment in the present, saps your energy, and keeps you up at night.
There are clear benefits to the word no. Saying no can create more mental health stability by helping with
self-care and building your self-esteem and confidence by setting boundaries.
(1.) Vacant; hollow; empty; as, an animal after long fasting; hence, lean; meager; thin; slender.
Gaunt
The following statement is a myth:
I shouldn't “hold in” my anger. It's healthy to vent and let it out.
How would you refute this statement?
While it's true that suppressing and ignoring anger is unhealthy, venting is no better. Anger is not something you have to “let out” in an aggressive way in order to avoid blowing up. In fact, outbursts and tirades only fuel the fire and reinforce your anger problem.
When you can recognize conflicting needs and are willing to examine them with compassion and understanding, it can lead to
creative problem solving, team building, and stronger relationships.
You may think that bottling up how you feel, trying to put on a brave face, or forcing yourself to be positive will provide the best outcome. But
denying or suppressing your emotions will only increase stress and anxiety and make you more vulnerable to depression or burnout.
Nobody knows your limits better than you do. If you are asked to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, take a moment to do some mindful breathing and listen to your intuition. It could be a
sign that you need to say no.
(1.) Faultless or irreproachable.
(2.) Without sin.
Impeccable
Many people think that anger management is about learning to suppress your anger. But never getting angry is not a healthy goal. Anger will come out regardless of how hard you try to tamp it down. The true goal of anger management isn’t to suppress feelings of anger, but rather to
understand the message behind the emotion and express it in a healthy way without losing control.
If your perception of conflict comes from painful memories from early childhood or previous unhealthy relationships, you may expect all disagreements to end badly. You may view conflict as
demoralizing, humiliating, or something to fear.
By not making decisions, you hope to avoid the uncertainty that inevitably follows. You'll find ways to delay or postpone acting—or even avoid certain situations all together—in an attempt to prevent bad things from happening. You are
procrastinating
When someone asks you to do something that crosses your boundaries, it is important to stop the process in its tracks and say no. But why?
Your boundaries are worth standing up for.
(1.) A destroyer of joy; an agent of gloom or low spirits.
Killjoy
Assuming you “know” what someone else is thinking or feeling—that they intentionally upset you, ignored your wishes, or disrespected you.
Mind reading and jumping to conclusions.
Listen for what is felt as well as said. When you really listen, you connect more deeply to your own needs and emotions, and to those of other people. Listening also
strengthens, informs, and makes it easier for others to hear you when it's your turn to speak.
One of the surest ways to avoid worrying about the future is to focus
on the present. Instead of trying to predict what might happen, switch your attention to what's happening right now.
Saying no can benefit your performance and career. Being assertive pays off.
It gives you the freedom to pursue projects that are in alignment with your professional goals.