Texting
Jordan gets angry because their partner doesn't text back within 15 minutes
Red Flag: Wanting an instant response is controlling, responding with anger is manipulative
Someone is using photos that are 10 years old because "I basically still look like that."
Red Flag: You cannot trust someone who misrepresents themselves
Taylor says, "I don't like texting all day. Can we talk after work instead?"
Green Flag: They are communicating their preferences respectfully
Your girlfriend asks you if she can post a picture of the two of you
Green Flag: Asking for permission (consent) shows respect
Cameron gives you the silent treatment after an argument.
Red Flag: Not wanting to communicate is harmful to a relationship, doing so out of anger is manipulative
You match with someone and the first thing they ask about you is what your favorite hobbies are
Green Flag: They seem likely to be interested in you as a person
Casey says, "I was upset yesterday. Can we talk about it?"
Green Flag: Direct and honest communication can solve problems
Your girlfriend asks for your phone password, Instagram password, and email passwords
Red Flag: Trust doesn't mean giving up privacy
You tell your girlfriend you're uncomfortable with a joke in the group chat, she laughs it off
Red flag: Partners should respect each others' feelings
After having just met, they say "i think I'm in love with you."
Red Flag: One cannot love someone they just met. This is called "love bombing" and is a manipulation trick
Your girlfriend says you should hang out with your friends.
Green Flag: Healthy romantic relationships exist when partners can spend time apart and be themselves
You don't want to post your relationship online, your girlfriend is okay with that
Green Flag: People should choose their own privacy level