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"I just miss you. Why not skip seeing your friends tonight?
Red Flag
This is an isolation tactic
"Get home safely, text me if you can."
They are giving you a choice
"That never happened."
Red Flag
They are gaslighting- you know what happened to you
They yell and throw something before storming out of the room
Red Flag
Volatile Anger
"We've been hanging out a lot lately. You can go out with your friends tonight if you'd like."
Green Flag
They want you to still be yourself
"You can go out with your friends, but check in with me every 5 minutes."
Red Flag
Coercive Control
"You're imagining things..."
Red Flag
They are gaslighting- you know what you saw
"I'm really upset right now, can we come back to this conversation later?"
Green Flag
They are taking the time to calm down
"I don't think your best friend understands our relationship"
Red Flag
This is an isolation tactic
"What do you want to do this weekend?"
Green Flag
They are sharing control with you
"You're overreacting!"
Red Flag
Gaslighting and Belittling (your emotions)
They punch a wall during an argument
Red Flag
Volatile anger
"If you really loved me, you'd want to stay with me tonight."
Red Flag
Isolation and Manipulation
They install a tracking device on your phone
Red Flag
This is Coercive Control
"That's not how I remember it,"
Green Flag
They're arguing without discounting your feelings
They start crying uncontrollably when you tell them "no"
Red Flag
Volatile Sadness and Manipulation
"I don't like you talking to other girls..."
Red Flag
Isolation & Coercive Control
They threaten to break up with you if you go out without them.
Coercive Control and Manipulation
"You made me yell at you!"
Red Flag
They are Gaslighting and Placing Blame on you for their own choices.
They apologize for yelling and ask how they can make things right,
Green Flag
They are taking responsibility for their actions