Emotional
One partner keeping regular surveillance of what the other is doing.
Red flag - this can be a form of emotional abuse
Asking for permission/consent to cross one's physical boundaries.
Green Flag - Respectful behavior is expected from friends and partners
Red Flag - This is an invasion of privacy and could be considered digital abuse.
When borrowed money is returned in the time frame agreed upon by each partner.
Green Flag - shows respect and consideration
Meeting the family (or chosen family) after 2 - 3 months of knowing/dating one another.
Green Flag - This can show a genuine interest and desire to commit.
Green Flag - The red flag would be guilt-tripping them for their choices to spend time with someone you do not like.
Throwing a phone or other piece of property when angry during conflict.
Red Flag - this is violent behavior
Understanding that one is not attached to their phone; therefore, will not be responding instantly.
Green Flag - this demonstrates patience and acceptance of one as an individual.
Supporting your work, work hours and career decisions.
Green Flag - a Red Flag would be limiting the hours you work or forbidding you from working at all.
Inviting each other's family members (or chosen family) to spend quality time together
Green Flag - They want to get to know and spend time with the people you surround yourself with
Communicating openly and honestly with others.
Green Flag - Communication is a key component to a healthy relationship.
When one person prevents the other from leaving or going somewhere.
Red Flag - This is someone being physically controlling.
Asking permission to use one another's' phones, computers or other electronic devices.
Green Flag - Respecting personal items boundaries.
Respecting your decisions on how you spend your money.
Green Flag - Monitoring what you buy would be a Red Flag.
Isolating you from your family or certain family members.
Ignoring someone on purpose due to harboring negative emotions.
Red Flag - Silent treatment is a form of emotional punishment.
Red Flag - physical abuse
Occasionally sending positive, uplifting and supportive messages or emails.
Green Flag
Getting you fired by harassing you, your employers or co-workers.
Red Flag - Considered Financial Abuse
Making inappropriate comments about you on family members' or friends' social media accounts.
Red Flag - If there is a conflict, it is important to communicate with one another rather than slander you to your friends/family members.
When someone says, "You're Overreacting."
Red Flag - They are being dismissive of one's emotions.
Consensual hugging, holding hands, kissing, cuddling etc.
Green Flag - If they asked for consent, they are respecting your physical boundaries.
Red Flag - Personal space and patience is important, even in a close relationship
Red Flag - Financial Abuse
Stalking family members in person or online.
Red Flag - Stalking is a form of abuse