Reframe This
I got in a car accident.
EX. I got in a car accident, but no one was hurt.
Is this the right was to use reframing? I lost my dog.
I lost my dog, and we never found him.
No! It just gets worse :(
True or false: you can reframe by looking for the negative.
False!
Reframe just this word!
Nervous
EX. Brave
My friend is upset with me.
EX. My friend is upset with me, but I will talk to her about it.
Is this right? I was cut from the soccer team.
I was cut from the soccer team, but I also got cut from the gymnastics team.
No! Reframing turns problems into challenges or finds the good in difficult experiences.
Provide an example of things you can think of to reframe.
EX. What did you learn? Was anyone hurt? Did it motivate you? Did it make you stronger?
Dumb
EX. Smart
I didn't get the part I wanted in the play.
EX. I didn't get the part I wanted in the play, but I had fun at tryouts.
I didn't get the lead role in the play.
I didn't get the lead role in the play, but it motivated me to work harder for another role.
Yes! Reframing turns problems into challenges!
True or false: When reframing, using the words always or never are a must.
False! Using always or never can put a limit on us, like negative events or thoughts are all-or-nothing.
Ugly
EX. beautiful
My friend did not want to play with me during recess.
EX. My friend did not want to play with me during recess, but I played with another friend instead.
I was stuck in traffic for a half an hour after school.
I had an extra half hour to listen to my favorite playlist in the car today.
Yes! Turn that negative into a positive!
True or false: just because one thing went wrong, everything will go wrong.
False! When reframing events, try to remember that they are usually isolated events, and look at future events like it as a challenge!
Shy
EX. Outgoing
I did not do as well on my test.
EX. I did not do as well on my test, but I did a lot better than the last one.
I'm being forced to play this boring game.
I get to play a game with my friends instead of doing school work!
Yes! take a minute to find the positive in the situation you are in.
True or false: We are always observing, noticing, and monitoring our thoughts.
False! Reframing becomes easier when we pay attention to our thoughts.
Rude
EX.kind