Refusal Skills
What is one way to say “no” that’s both polite and firm?
“No thanks, I’m not into that.” or “I don’t want to.”
What is peer pressure?
When others influence you to do something—positive or negative—you might not do on your own.
Your friend says, “Just take one puff—it’s not a big deal.”
“No thanks, I don’t want to mess with that.”
Name one harmful substance teens may be pressured to try.
Alcohol, vapes/nicotine, marijuana, pills, or other drugs.
What kind of voice should you use when refusing something?
Clear, confident, and firm.
Name two refusal strategies you can use when offered drugs or alcohol.
Any two of: Say no firmly, give a reason, suggest an alternative, use humor, walk away.
What’s the difference between direct and indirect peer pressure?
Direct = someone tells or asks you directly. Indirect = feeling like you should join in to fit in.
Someone hands you a drink at a party. What’s your response?
“No, I’m good.” or “I don’t drink.”
True or False: Vaping is harmless water vapor.
False — it contains nicotine, chemicals, and can damage lungs.
What does confident body language look like when saying “no”?
Eye contact, standing tall, calm tone of voice.
What is a good reason or excuse you can use to avoid using a substance?
“I have a game tomorrow,” “I could get in trouble,” “I want to stay healthy.”
Give an example of verbal peer pressure.
“Come on, everyone’s doing it.” or “Don’t be lame—just try it once!”
You’re at a sleepover and friends start vaping. They tell you to try it.
“Nope, not interested. Let’s just watch the movie.”
How can substance use affect your brain or goals?
It can affect focus, memory, judgment, and damage your health or future opportunities.
Why does body language matter when refusing something?
It shows you mean what you say and helps others take you seriously.
Why is offering an alternative activity a smart refusal strategy?
It helps change the topic and keeps the friendship going without saying yes.
What is one way to handle pressure from a friend who won’t take no for an answer?
Stay firm, repeat your refusal, change the subject, or walk away.
A classmate says you’re “boring” for not smoking. How do you respond and walk away confidently?
“That’s fine—you can think that, but I’m not risking my health.” (Then leave)
What’s one long-term risk of using alcohol or drugs as a teen?
Addiction, brain development problems, legal issues, or health problems.
What are some signs of nervous or unsure body language?
Looking down, fidgeting, avoiding eye contact, quiet voice.
What’s a creative or funny way to say “no” without being rude?
“Nah, I like my brain cells too much!” or “I’m good — I’m saving my lungs for singing!”
Name and describe 3 types of peer pressure.
Verbal: spoken pressure; Non-verbal: body language or actions; Internal: pressure from yourself to fit in.
You’re pressured at a party and want to leave. How do you remove yourself without causing drama?
“I forgot I had to be somewhere. Gotta go—text me later!” (Walk out confidently.)
What’s one reason some people choose to say “no” to substances?
To stay healthy, protect their goals, avoid addiction, or keep their values.
Act out (or describe) how to say no using both words and body language in a high-pressure situation.
Sample: “No, I’m not doing that.” (Make eye contact, cross arms, walk away.)