Types
This boundary refers to personal space and physical touch. It includes awareness of what is appropriate, and what is not, in various settings and types of relationships. This boundary is violated when someone touches you when you don't want them to or when they invade your personal space.
Physical boundaries
Before becoming involved in a situation, know what's acceptable to you, and what isn't.
Is this a). knowing your limits b). being assertive or c). listening to your emotions
a - knowing your limits
When someone sets limits and rules for themselves within relationships. A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others when they want to, but they are also comfortable opening themselves up to intimacy and close relationships.
Personal boundaries
Face the other person, make eye contact, and use a steady tone of voice at an appropriate volume (not too quiet, and not too loud).
Is this a). be respectful b). use confident body language c). compromise
b - Use confident body language
True or false: It is okay for your friends to make you feel guilty for ending any relationship
FALSE
This type of boundary refers to how a person uses their time. It includes setting aside enough time for each facet of their life such as work, relationships, and hobbies. This boundary is violated when another person demands too much of another's time.
Time boundary
Every person's limits are different, and they are often determined by their personal values. Know what's most important to you and protect it.
Is this a). having respect for others b). being assertive c). knowing your values
c - knowing your values
A person who always keeps others at a distance (whether emotionally, physically, or otherwise) has what type of boundaries
Rigid boundaries
Avoid yelling, using put-downs, or giving the silent treatment. It’s okay to be firm, but your message will be better received if you are respectful.
Is this a). use confident body language b). plan ahead c). be respectful
c - Be respectful
Always doing what your friends/BF/GF wants to do is considered what kid of relationship? healthy or unhealthy
unhealthy
This type of boundary refers to money and possessions. It involves setting limits on what you will share, and with whom. This boundary is violated when someone steals or damages another person's possessions, or when they pressure them to give or lend them their possessions.
Material boundaries
If you notice feelings of discomfort or resentment, don't bury them. Try to understand what your feelings are telling you
Is this a). having self-respect b). listening to your emotions or c). considering the long view
b - listening to your emotions
A person who tends to become too involved with others has what type of boundary
Porous boundaries
Think about what you want to say, and how you will say it, before entering a difficult discussion. This can help you feel more confident about your position.
Is this a). plan ahead b). use confident body language c). be respectful
a - plan ahead
What is your dating right: A). to set your own limits B). to end your relationship C). to be equal D). all of the above
D - all of the above
This type of boundary refers to the emotional, intellectual, and physical aspects of sexuality. It includes mutual understanding and respect of limitations and desires between sexual partners. This type of boundary is violated with unwanted sexual touch, pressure to engage in sexual acts, or sexual comments.
Sexual boundaries
If you always give in to others, ask if you are showing as much respect to yourself as you show to others. Boundaries that are too open might be due to misguided attempts to be liked by elevating other people’s needs above one’s own
Is this a). knowing your limits b). knowing your values or c). having self-respect
c - having self-respect
Name one characteristic of healthy boundaries
Values own opinions, doesn't compromise values for others, shares personal information in an appropriate way (does not share or overshare), knows personal wants and needs and is able to communicate them, accepting when others say "no" to them
A way to say "no" by expressing yourself clearly and assertively so there is no doubt what you want
I'm not comfortable with this, I can't do that for you, this is not acceptable, please don't do that, this doesn't work for me, I'm drawing the line at ___, not at this time, I've decided not to, I don't want to do that
True or false: A healthy relationship can sometimes be controlling, manipulative, or jealous
False
This type of boundary refers to a person's feelings. It includes limitation on when to share, and when not to share, personal information. This type of boundary is violated when someone criticizes, belittles, or invalidates another person's feelings.
This type of boundary refers to thoughts and ideas. It includes respect for others' ideas, and an awareness of appropriate discussion. These boundaries are violated when someone dismisses or belittles another person's thoughts or ideas.
Emotional boundaries
Intellectual boundaries
When you know it’s time to set a boundary, don’t be shy. Say “no” respectfully, but without ambiguity. If you can make a compromise while respecting your own boundaries, try it. This is a good way to soften the “no”, while showing respect to everyone involved
Is this a). having respect for others b). being assertive or c). listening to your emotions
b - being assertive
Name one characteristic of EITHER a rigid or porous boundary
(Or one of both for 600)
Rigid: Avoids intimacy and close relationships, unlikely to ask for help, has few close relationships, very protective of personal information, may deem detached even with romantic partners, keeps others at a distance to avoid the possibility of rejection
Porous: Overshares personal information, difficulty saying "no" to the requests of others, overinvolved with others' problems, dependent on the opinions of others, accepting of disrespect, fears rejection if they do not comply with others
A way to say "no" by expressing yourself clearly and assertively so there is no doubt what you want
I'm not comfortable with this, I can't do that for you, this is not acceptable, please don't do that, this doesn't work for me, I'm drawing the line at ___, not at this time, I've decided not to, I don't want to do that
What is one technique you can use to calm yourself
Deep breathing, take a walk, sing, dance, mindfulness meditation, exercise, count to 10, remove yourself from the situation