Red or Green flag?
Wants to spend time with you every day, all the time, and gets mad at you when you spend time with other people.
Red flag. It is important to make sure you have alone time as well as time for other relationships.
Describe empathy.
What is understanding how a person might be feeling in a particular situation (putting yourself in someone else's shoes).
True or false: Only romantic relationships can be unhealthy
False. Any type of relationship has the potential to be unhealthy.
True or false: Boundaries are selfish
This coping skill serves as an emotional release and is something you can do even if you are not angry.
What is Exercise?
Encourages you to do things that make you happy
Green flag. Healthy Partners (or friends) encourage us to be the best version of ourselves.
True or false: if a conversation is getting heated, it is unhealthy to come back to the topic at a different time rather than resolving it in the moment.
False. As long as you agree to come back to the conversation, it is okay to take a break to cool-down when needed
This type of relationship is based on a "power and control" dynamic
What is an abusive relationship?
Types of boundaries
Physical, Mental, Emotional, Material
Anger is a normal emotion.
True
Getting really jealous when you talk to other people.
Red flag.
Describe what a compromise is.
What is when two people are able to meet in the middle
True or false: If you are in an abusive relationship, it's probably your fault.
FALSE! Abusive partners actively make a choice to engage in abusive behavior, it is NEVER the survivor's fault.
How do boundaries help us?
An event or situation that triggers a person's anger.
What is a Triggering Event?
Willing to talk through/solve problems
Green flag
Letting someone know how you feel without blaming or criticizing them
What is an I-statement?
**Bonus points: give an example of an I-statement**
True or false: Abusive relationships are only physical.
FALSE. Abuse can also be psychological, financial, and/or verbal.
True or false: If enforcing a boundary upsets someone, you probably asked for too much.
FALSE. It is common for people to be reactive when we enforce boundaries because it usually means they are losing something.
Is anger genetic or a learned behavior?
A learned behavior.
Calling or texting you all the time and getting upset anytime you don't answer, even if you have a valid reason.
Red flag
True or false: Relationships should be easy and if it isn't, it's probably not worth it.
False. Most relationships require problem-solving work. Two individuals coming together are bound to have clashing ideas but what matters is how that conflict is handled.
Who can you go to if you are concerned about your safety in a relationship?
A trusted friend, adult, therapist, the domestic violence hotline
True or false: Romantic partners don't need to ask for consent
FALSE. A romantic relationship does not exclude anyone from needing to ask for your consent.
What are some feelings often masked by anger?
Disappointment, loneliness, hurt, pain, shame, grief, stress