Relationships
A connection between two people.
What is a relationship?
These are guidelines you communicate to others to help you feel comfortable and safe.
What are boundaries?
Why is communication important in relationships?
So you're on the same page, show respect, and avoid conflict/drama
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Justin's girlfriend did not respond to his text so he calls and texts her every five minutes.
Unhealthy
Is it ok to a hug a co-worker?
Sometimes. You need to respect your co-workers personal space and not touch them without asking first.
This word describes the way you are connected to people in your life, like family, friends, and romantic partners.
What is a relationship?
True or False:
Everyone has the same boundaries
FALSE
What can we do if we feel angry or upset?
Deep breathing, walking away, counting to 10, stress ball, using "I" statements, asking for space or a break
Healthy or Unhealthy?
Wanda's friend is having a hard day and asked Wanda for some space. Wanda wants to be a good friend, so she decides to wait until lunch time to ask her friend how she is doing and if she would like some company.
Healthy
Is it ok to tell someone that they are being a bad friend because they talked to your boyfriend/girlfriend?
No. It is okay for our boyfriends/girlfriends to have their own friends!
Signs you are in a healthy relationship
What are communication, respect, trust, being yourself, and conflict resolution?
True or False
Sending 30 texts in a row to someone because they are not responding may cross their boundary.
True
What would be an okay amount of texts to someone? Is it okay to wait for them to respond slowly?
What are UNhealthy communication skills?
Yelling, name calling/blaming, ignoring, not listening, not leaving someone alone when they ask for space, playing the victim
Healthy or Unhealthy
Lydia is having a bad day and tells other people they cannot sit next to her boyfriend or talk to him. She tells her boyfriend he can't talk to anybody but her.
Unhealthy
Is it ok to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend if they want to call you tonight? What if they say they can't call you or don't want to call you tonight?
Yes! You can ask if they want to call, but we need to let people make their own decisions and respect their choices.
Signs you are in an unhealthy relationship
What are, feeling scared, not talking about problems or your feelings, or being told what to do?
True or False
It's ok for someone to ignore your boundaries
False
If someone does not respect your boundaries it is a good idea to let that person know that you would like them to please respect your boundaries. Who can you ask for help if you need it?
What are healthy communication skills?
Calm/even tone, using "I" statements, compromise, dealing with conflict, listening, talking about boundaries, respect, patience
What are some other examples of healthy communication?
Your friend has a new girlfriend/boyfriend and is ignoring you during the day and not answering your texts. How could you let them know how you are feeling?
Tell them that you feel sad not talking to them as much and that you miss hanging out. Ask to see if they would want to plan a day to hang out soon.
If you already have a boyfriend/girlfriend, should you ask another person to date you?
No. We should have only one boyfriend or girlfriend so we don't hurt people's feelings.
Places you can form new relationships
What are clubs, activities, Wellspring, work, church, camps?
There's a new participant in your program and they have made it clear they aren't interested in dating. You decide to keep asking them out anyways because you really like them. What are you doing?
Ignoring their boundaries and not respecting their choices
What kinds of things can you discuss with someone you just met?
Likes/dislikes, hobbies, program experiences/classes, job experiences, favorite foods, tv shows/movies, sports
Healthy or Unhealthy
Kyla and Chris are dating and got into a fight. Chris said he needs a break but Kyla says he can't leave because she's not done talking about it. Chris doesn't leave the room even though Kyla is still yelling.
Unhealthy
What could Chris and Kyla do to make this a healthy conversation?
Is it ok to break up with someone in a kind way because we don't want to date them anymore?
Yes! It's ok to not want to date someone anymore.
What are some ways to tell someone in a nice way that you don't want to date anymore?