COMMUNICATION
Give two qualities of healthy communication skills
Active listening, listen to understand
"I" statements, assertive
No blaming
Taking turns speaking
Clear and direct
Equally share feelings and needs
In-person/make eye contact
Compromise and problem-solve
Healthy or Unhealthy: Your partner/friend gets jealous when you hang out with other people and asks that you ask for permission first before talking with other people.
Unhealthy
TRUE OR FALSE: You can have friends with different interests and values.
True
What is something you can join to meet new people?
A club
A sports team
A leadership role
A volunteer group or organization
A job
What is one way that people engage in conflict?
Yelling
Blaming/shaming
Not listening
Needing to be right
Not compromising
Making false accusations/assuming the worst
Guidelines to protect yourself from an unhealthy relationship.
Boundaries
Give two examples of non-verbal communication
Facial expression
Tone of voice
Body posture
Eye contact
Nodding
Healthy or Unhealthy Relationship: Both people have equal decision-making power.
Healthy
True or False: It's natural to have a lot of drama and conflict with friends.
False
How can you find common interests to build new friendships?
Notice things about the person
Ask questions
Compliment them/Smile/Acts of Kindness
Initiate conversation
Invite them to something you like to do
Join a club, sport, or hobby you enjoy
Being aware of the other person's feelings and emotions is called _______________.
Empathy
What are some examples of personal boundaries?
Personal space
Touching-Who, where, when, how
Physical boundaries
Not tolerating abusive behavior
Verbal-not allowing others to talk down to you
Time
Share one drawback about digital/electronic communication
Easy to misinterpret
Can't read body language/tone of voice
Can be an escape from hard conversations
Doesn't require the same social skills
Cyberbullying
Name two indicators of an unhealthy relationship.
Manipulation
Lack of trust/checks on you frequently
Jealousy/Controlling
Inequality
Pressuring/guilt trips
Angry outbursts
Dishonesty
Your relationship with a friend seems to have changed and you are drifting apart. What should you do?
Talk it out
Give an example of something you have done to form a new friendship.
Smile/compliment
Joined a sport, club, organization
Initiated conversation
Found out common interests/asked questions
Invited the person to do something
Helped someone
Connected first on social media
What is it called when two people both give in a little in order to settle a conflict?
Compromise
Why are boundaries created?
To set limits on what you will and won't accept
What is one way you can make a friend/partner less defensive when talking about a difficult topic?
Using "I" statements
Using a calm tone of voice and open body posture
Allowing the other person to express their point of view
Listening to understand
Assuming good intentions and leading with empathy
Problem-solving together or compromising
Name two red flags of an abusive relationship.
Physical abuse
Emotional abuse
Very jealous or controlling
Unequal power
Pressuring/forcing/manipulating
Mistreats/denies abuse
Angry outbursts
Name 2 ways to ruin a friendship.
Breaking trust/dishonesty
Ignoring the other person's needs/talking only about yourself
Not accepting the other person for who they/trying to change them
Poor communication
Not validating their feelings or point of view
Talking behind their back
Frequent conflict/getting angry easily
Being jealous or controlling
Name two things that might happen to cause you to end a friendship or change friend groups.
Toxic behaviors/Mistreatment
Frequent drama/conflict
Dishonesty
Pressuring you to do things you don't want to do
Controlling/jealous/bossy/manipulative
Grow apart/don't share same interests or values
Don't support you or others/talk poorly about you or others
What is one way to "cool off" during a conflict?
Deep Breaths
Take a break/come back when calm
Use other coping skills
"I care about you too much to argue. Let's talk about this later when we are both calm."
Appropriate humor
Find the good
Give an example of a boundary you might need to set with a friend.
"If you continue to get mad when I spend time with other friends, I won't be able to stay in this friendship."
"I feel uncomfortable when you pressure me to steal. If you keep asking me to do this, I won't hang out with you."
A friend talks about your boyfriend/girlfriend negatively to others.
Share your feelings by using an "I" statement to approach the subject with your friend.
"I feel uncomfortable when you talk about my partner negatively because it unfairly affects how others think of her. I'd like you to talk with me directly if you have concerns about my girlfriend."
Healthy or unhealthy relationship: You feel that you are allowed to say "no" to things you don't agree with without jeopardizing the relationship.
Healthy
Your friend often talks badly about other people and often starts drama by spreading rumors and making hurtful posts on social media. Give an example of how you would communicate these concerns to your friend in a healthy way.
"The things you say about other people are hurtful and untrue. If you continue to treat people this way, I won't be able to be friends anymore." (boundary)
"I feel uncomfortable when you talk badly about other people. What's going on for you that causes you to treat people this way? What could you do instead of saying hurtful things?" (Talk it out.)
Name a pro and a con of social media in terms of friendships.
Pros:
Meet new people, find common interests, interact, show support, entertain, learn
Cons:
Can lead to cyberbullying, harmful posts, can impact mental health, rumors, not the same as in-person, can misinterpret
Name two healthy forms of conflict resolution skills
Use a calm and respectful tone and body language
Use I-statements/be assertive
Listen to understand
Equally share feelings and persepctives
Problem-solve solutions together
Compromise
Assume good intentions/be empathetic
Give an example of a boundary you might need to set with a partner.
"I understand you are angry, but I can't allow you to talk to me this way."
"I am in class right now and can't text. I'll message you when I get home."
"I don't feel comfortable with ___. If this continues, I will ____."
"If you continue to pressure me, I'll need some space."