Boundaries
Define Boundaries
are the limits and rules we set for ourselves in relationships.
This an example of
“I feel frustrated when I come home and the house is messy.”
What is I-Statements
True or False:
The Leyden Living Room is open 24/7
TRUE!
What is the FAST skill?
Be Fair
No Apologies
Stick to your values
Be Truthful
List the three different boundary styles
Porous, Healthy, and Rigid
Define Active Listening
Active listeners show they are listening, encourage sharing, and strive to understand the speaker.
List at least 3 different departments in Leyden Family Service
Aftercare, Outpatient Therapy, Medication management, crisis, Leyden living room, seniors, SHARE
Why are DBT Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills great for relationships?
Because they help you stay mindful of yourself and others which improves the relationship.
What are some statements we can practice to set boundaries?
“I’m not comfortable with this” “Please don’t do that” “Not at this time” “I can’t do that for you” “This doesn’t work for me” “I’ve decided not to” “This is not acceptable” “I’m drawing the line at ___” “I don’t want to do that”
What are the three different communication styles.
Passive, Aggressive, Assertive
When was Leyden Family Service and Mental Health Center incorporated as a not-for-profit agency?
June 1952.
What is the GIVE skill?
Be Gentle
Act Interested
Validate
Use an Easy Manner
List at least 3 different boundary types.
physical, emotional, time, Material
Double Jeopardy!
What is one big difference between Aggressive communication and Assertive.
Assertive communication emphasizes the importance of both peoples' needs.
Aggressive communication, a person expresses that only their own needs, wants, and feelings matter.
What is the name of our CEO?
Double points for last name
Jennifer Hamilton
What is the THINK skill?
Think about it from a new perspective
Have empathy
Interpretations
Notice
Use Kindness
Explain Porous, Rigid, and Healthy Boundaries
A person with porous boundaries struggles to say “no” to others. This allows for intimacy, but often at the cost of their own wants and needs.
A person with healthy boundaries can say “no” to others, but they’re also open to intimacy and new experiences.
A person with rigid boundaries keeps others at a distance. This offers protection and stability, but at the cost of intimacy and new experiences.
What are some traits of passive communication
Prioritizes needs of others, lack of confidence, poor eye contact, does not express own needs or wants.
What year did Aftercare program begin?
1973.
What is the DEARMAN skill and why do we use it?
We use it to help with asking for things more effectively and saying no effectively.
Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce (Reward), Mindful, Appear Confident, Negotiate (Accept No)