Relationships
What is a relationship?
An emotional connection between two people.
What are boundaries?
Guidelines you communicate to others to help you feel comfortable and safe.
Why is communication important in relationships?
So you're on the same page, show respect, avoid conflict/drama
Peter's girlfriend is out of town so he calls her every five minutes.
Unhealthy
To a hug a co-worker?
Nope
Who are people you can have a relationship with?
Family, Friends, Boy/Girlfriend, Husband/Wife, Support Staff, etc.
Everyone has the same boundaries and that's how you know how to treat others.
FALSE
What is an anger management skill?
Deep breathing, walking away, counting to 10, stress ball, using "I" statements
Wanda really wants to be friends with the new girl at school. She starts off by introducing her self and saying hi when she see's her in class. After a week she asks her if she wants to eat lunch together.
Healthy
To write a love note to your neighbor?
Questionable
What are some signs you are in a healthy relationship?
Communication, respect, trust, affection, can be yourself, conflict resolution
One of your boundaries you do not want your picture posted on social media but your friend took a really nice picture of you both and you think you would like to change your mind and let them post it. Is it ok to change your mind and boundary?
Yes! As long as you feel comfortable you can change boundaries all the time.
What are some unhealthy communication skills?
Yelling, name calling/blaming, ignoring, giving in, never giving in, not listening, playing victim
Tom's friends always encourage him to partake in activities that get him in trouble. Last week they told him how funny it would be if he wrote "Mr. Smith smells like a farm" in the boys room. He ended up getting 3 days detention for it but all his friends laughed and invited him to eat lunch with them that day.
Unhealthy
To share personal information about your best friend with other people?
No, unless they are unsafe then you should tell a trusted adult.
What are some signs you are in an unhealthy relationship?
Fear, lack of communication, lying, manipulation, hiding your feelings/emotions, giving more
You made a new friend in your science class. They told you they would text you later to meet up at the baseball game. They texted you to say they can't go because they aren't feeling good. You keep texting them multiple times in a row because they stopped answering you. Have you crossed a boundary?
Yes, the other person set a boundary when they stopped answering.
What are healthy communication skills?
Calm/even tone, compromise, dealing with conflict, listening, talking about boundaries
You found out your friend's boyfriend is 21 and buys her alcohol and they drink together on the weekends. They always have a good time and never fight but you notice she is pulling away from the rest of the group at school. Why is this unhealthy?
She should not be dating someone who is an adult. Alcohol impairs judgment and should not be consumed by someone under age.
To ask a person on your bowling league to hang out outside of bowling (like going to grab a bite to eat after).
Yes
Clubs/activities, dating sites, church
There's a new co-worker at your job and they have made it clear they don't date co-workers. You decide to keep asking them out anyways because you really like them. What are you doing?
Ignoring their boundaries and disrespecting them
Janice and Chandlar are on their first date. What kinds of things should they discuss on their date?
"Small" Talk topics, start establishing boundaries
Kyle and Jen have been together for just a few weeks and Kyle wants to take things slow. Jen would be comfortable with a faster pace and checks in occasionally to see where Jen is and expressing their desire to be more official.
Healthy
To tell a teacher you like their new hair style?
Yes