Healthy Relationships
True or False: It's healthy for a partner to constantly contact you in order to confirm where you are, what you're doing, and who you are with
FALSE
What is one way that you can support a friend who is being treated poorly?
(Listen to them; believe them; don't judge them; give them resources like a hotline number)
What does it mean to have good self care?
To be able to care for your own needs / Doing Things for Yourself / Prioritizing Yourself
Name one example of a healthy couple in the media.
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This quality is in a healthy relationship when you understand and acknowledge the other person's feelings and they acknowledge yours.
Respect
True or False: If I ask someone to hang out and they say they'd rather spend time alone, something must be wrong.
False. Taking time for yourself is normal and healthy!
Name two adults you can go to for help.
Examples: parent, foster parent, teacher, mentor, coach, sibling, aunt/uncle, grandparent, school counselor, etc.
What does it mean to feel important?
To feel you are good at something / Have value to others / Value to yourself / Contributing to something beyond yourself
What is a boundary?
Limits you create between yourself and other people / what's okay and not okay/ something that allows you to define what's acceptable in your relationships, etc.
Which Should Be True of Friendships/ Relationships:
A. They grow and change
B. They are build on dependency
C. They are threatened by other relationships
A. They grow and change
When someone else keeps you from seeing or talking to friends and/or family, this is called ___________.
Isolation
Your friend is the abuser. How would you help him/her?
(Don't ignore the abuse; don't justify their behaviors; help them get professional help)
How do you know when someone respects you?
They listen to you, value your opinion, honor your boundaries, are truthful (even when it's hard), they're reliable, they treat you with kindness (even when they disagree with you) , they apologize when they make a mistake, listen to your concerns, etc.
Describe the differences between conflict and fighting.
A conflict is a condition in a relationship in which one or both parties do not like the way the other is behaving. A fight is a way of addressing conflict in which the goal is to try to make the other person lose.
What is one way to ensure you and a friend, partner, or family member are communicating effectively?
You both listen, ask questions, are honest with one another, etc.
Name one sign that you might need more self-care.
feeling stressed, tired, overwhelmed, irritable, or having trouble concentrating?
What could you do if someone crosses a boundary?
Reinforce you boundary / decide not to interact with that person / adjust how you interact with that person
Name one healthy strategy you can use when having conflict with someone else.
(Taking a time out, "I" messages, Assertive Communication, Talking when you've both cooled off)
Name one reason why someone might stay in an abusive relationship.
(They think they will change, they have children together, they are scared to leave, they are financially dependent, they have no where else to go or talk to, etc.)
What are some signs that you and a loved one are NOT communicating effectively?
You are afraid to express how you feel and/or what your wants and needs are, you dread or avoid conversations, you or your loved one make assumptions and/or criticize, there are frequent misunderstandings, when communicating about an issue, it escalates into a conflict
Why is self-care important? Name two reasons.
It helps improve physical health, mental health, focus, mood, relationships, and resilience.
True or False: Lyrics that are violent have no impact on us. It's just artists making art.
False! Pop culture is hugely influential on our society (including helping young people know what to expect in relationships) and influences the ways we sometimes blame or don't support victims