Attachment
Our attachments are originally created when we are this old.
What is infants?
Clear is _____
What is KIND?
What boundaries protect
What is our resources, values, space, etc.?
This might be unmet when I am feeling a negative emotion
What is a need?
An example of a value
What is Character, Family, Emotional Health, Physical Health, Spiritual Health, Having Healthy Relationships, Responsibility, Honesty, Loving, Learning, Travel, etc.?
The four main types of attachment
What is Secure, Anxious/Ambivalent, Disorganized/Anxious-Avoidant, and Avoidant?
The three general types of communication
What is Passive, Assertive, Aggressive?
Lorenzo asked me to watch his dog over the weekend. I'm allergic to dogs and had plans but I know that he's stressed and so I need to help him out so he can be happy. I have these boundaries.
What is dependent/enmeshed?
How to prepare before we communicate
What is regulate?
The first step in creating a healthy relationship
What is to know yourself?
Secure attachment is created by these activities.
What is... ex. spending time with those who help you meet your needs, improving your self-worth, etc.
Active listening includes these things
What is not making assumptions, reflecting facts, validation, and asking questions?
The cost and name of the three types of boundaries
What is Independent/Loneliness, Interdependent/Saying No, Dependent/Exhaustion?
Teach a grounding skill to the group
What is GOOD JOB :D
This needs to happen in order for us to meet our emotional needs
What is to identify and process your own thoughts and feelings, or determine your wants and needs?
Anxious attachment may manifest through these behaviors as adults.
What is people pleasing, inconsistency in meeting needs of self and others, etc.?
The point of communication
What is to be known and/or seeking to understand each the other?
Behaviors those with independent boundaries can benefit from
What is practicing vulnerability and developing healthy levels of trust with others?
The purpose of emotions
What is signifying an unmet need, or something that is needing our attention?
How self-worth can show up in relationships (3 examples)
What is setting healthy boundaries, practicing clear communication, and not settling for not being treated with respect?
This creates disorganized attachment
What is double bind/paradoxical parenting ("come here, go away")?
Communicating an expectation to others includes these things.
What is knowing the expectation yourself (conscious), being clear, being detailed, agreeing upon it, and holding it loosely (because others are flawed)?
My partner has been asking to spend more time with me lately but I don't feel like I have the energy to give them what they want. I want them to know that I care but that I need some time to re-energize on my own. This is what I can say to set a boundary and still connect.
What is...
Example: I care about you a lot and I want to connect but right now I don't have the energy to spend more time than usual together. I'd like to plan for something later in the week so I can rest for the next couple days. What would you be open to doing on Saturday?
Role play scenario: While in conflict with your parent, express that you are too overwhelmed to have the conversation.
What is: YAY YOU DID IT!
Those who have value
Who is everybody?