Defining Resentment
What is resentment best understood as?
Having a bitter indignation at being treat unfairly or unkindly.
T or F: In order to resolve Resentment, you must gain awareness of the emotions you experience regarding past hurt.
True
You should refer to your _________ often to recognize and avoid triggers
relapse prevention plan
What is Forgiveness?
The process where someone who has been wronged chooses to let go of their resentment and treat the wrongdoer with compassion.
What is the definition of anger?
An emotion that we experience when someone does something that we do not like. This is an emotion that is very common and powerful. Although it is common, it is bad if we do not handle it in an appropriate manner.
When does Resentment occur?
When you're misunderstood, neglected, rejected, slighted, or mistreated.
T or F: Forgiveness is a pardon to mistreatment and wrong doings.
False. Forgiveness does not pardon the offenders actions.
When you have urges, you should ask yourself whether you are H.A.L.T. What does this stand for?
What is hungry, angry, lonely, tired.
When you forgive someone, does that mean you will reconcile the relationship?
No, forgiveness does not entirely reconcile relationships.
What is aggression?
(n) hostile or destructive behaviors or actions. Aggression is often fueled by a desire to get your way at all costs.
What follows after Resentment?
Bitterness, discontentment, and dissatisfaction.
Anger can be a "good" thing.
true
______ triggers include: people, places, events, and objects.
Do you have to speak to the wrongdoer in order to forgive them?
No, forgiveness can occur without ever speaking to the wrongdoer.
What are the 4 types of aggression?
When you are resentful, do you review the facts of the slight or argument?
No, we relive them in a way that affects you emotionally, physiologically, and spiritually in destructive ways.
T or F: In order to forgive, focus on the past.
False. Focus on things you can control. You can't control the past.
Triggers can lead to __________. (one answer)
cravings
Is forgiveness an emotional change?
Yes, it is an emotional change that occurs within the person who has been wronged.
There are many factors that contribute to someone's ability to identify, manage and express anger. Name the 3 factors we discussed yesterday during group.
The environment you grew up in, genetics/your personality and your current environment.
What is a failed result of resentment?
Disintegrated connections with others and damage to intimate relationships.
If we express our anger with someone, chances are we will make them feel angry or hurt.
False. It is important to realize that we are only in control of our own feelings and cannot "make" anyone feel one emotion or another. Certainly how we word things can tilt the scales one way or another sometimes, but each person is at choice for how they interpret and decide to feel about what someone says or does.
the inability to think clearly, memory problems, emotional overreaction or numbness, sleep problems, physical coordination problems and stress sensitivity are symptoms of __________.
withdrawal
Give an example of what forgiveness is and what it isn't. (this does not have to be the exact example listed)
Examples
What it is: Decisions to overcome pain that was inflicted by another person
What it isn't: Forgetting the injustice
Choosing to handle our anger in an inappropriate way like throwing a tantrum, slamming doors, hitting someone, etc are all bad choices.. When we choose to make these choices, we have _____
consequences