Optimism
What is optimism?
Looking on the bright side, finding the good in any situation
What is emotional regulation?
Being able to control our emotions and actions
What is self esteem?
Believing in yourself and knowing that you are special and important
Why are social relationships important to being resilient?
Why is it important to not make assumptions about other people?
Because we miss out on getting to know people when we assume things about them based on how they look or knowing only a little bit of information about them
What should you do with every problem or challenge?
Turn it into an opportunity!
According to Shaka, Your should focus on the ______________, not the _______________.
Purpose, Pain
Shaka Senghor believes that Resilience is a ____________________.
Choice
"Do Unto Others" - what is the Golden Rule?
Treat others the way you want to be treated (do unto others as you would have them do unto you)
According to Shaka Senghor, what are the 3 components of Resilience?
Optimism, Resourcefulness, Memory loss (let it go)
Provide a "saying" for an example of optimism.
Examples: There is a silver lining in every dark cloud.
"Self control is strength and calmness is power" What does that quote mean to you?
Being in control of my emotions and myself takes more strength and power than fighting or yelling
Why is self esteem important to being resilient?
When something challenging happens in life you know that it doesn't mean you are bad or stupid, but you believe in yourself to get back up again
"It is nice to be important, but it is more important to be nice" What does this quote mean to you?
Even though it feels good to be important, it is more important that we are nice and show kindness to others - if we want people to be there for us we need to be nice to them
What does resilience mean?
Bouncing back! When something difficult in life happens we get back up and don't let it keep us down
"If you want the rainbow, you have to deal with the rain" what does this have to do with "optimism"
Good things can come out of negative situations
When you have __________________, you can come out of anything.
Hope
"Be yourself, everyone else is taken" What does that quote mean to you?
It is important to be unique and be yourself - don't be like everyone else, "run your own race and stay in your lane"
Name 3 people you could talk to in your circle of support
- mom - dad - grandparents - coach - teacher - church leader - boy scout leader - friend - mentor - staff member
“The greatest glory in living is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." What does this quote mean to you?
Perfection isn't as impressive as having the persistence to keep trying and not giving up when we make mistakes or face challenges
Provide an example of a negative situation that could be turned into an optimistic situation (hint: What did you learn?)
(thinking about the good, finding the positive)
Provide an example or a time when you or someone else showed good "emotional regulation"
angry or anxious and used a coping strategy(deep breaths, counting, go to a calm location, listen to music, meditate, go for a walk.
What are three strengths that you have?
- funny - kind - smart - strong - leader - artistic
anything!
Tell about a time that someone in your circle of support helped you in a difficult situation
they listened, they made me laugh, they gave helpful advice
Name 3 famous resilient people.
Dr. Martin Luther King, Rosa Parks, Dali Lama, Harriet Tubman, Malala Yousafzai, Steve Jobs, etc.