Teasing and Bullying
T or F- Most people have been teased or bullied at some point in their lives.
True! Unfortunately, most people have experienced teasing or bullying at some point in their life.
Intent-> ______- >Impact. What belongs in the middle?
What is filtering?
Filtering only focuses on a situation's negatives and not the positives.
Name four places you might feel anxiety in your body
dizzy, sweating, fast heart beat, stomach aches, etc.
What does it mean to be a good sport?
trying your best, listening to others, encouraging teammates, etc
What is the difference between teasing and bullying?
Teasing- less severe than bullying, the intention typically isn't to hurt our feelings, sometimes as a hurtful joke.
Bullying- Aggressive and threatening, typically more than one person (bystanders), repeated, intended to hurt our feelings.
Summarize what intent means
How does All-or-Nothing Think?
thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
Name three places you might feel anger in your body
fists, loud voice, jaw, etc
Name three ways good sportsmanship could be demonstrated during free time
saying “Good game”, continuing to play if losing, trying your best, using encouraging words to peers
Name three ways to show assertiveness in a conversation.
1- Posture
2- Eye Contact
3- Tone of Voice
Name three steps we can take to be more aware of our intentions and the impact of our behaviors
1- Thinking about what we expect to happen before we act
2- Ask yourself if someone said or did the same thing to you, how would it feel
3- Think about the best words and tone of voice to use
Name five of nine the thinking errors we discussed
Shoulds, Its not fair!, Blaming others/self, Personalization, Zooming-in-on-the-negative, Fortune Telling, Mind Reading, Catastrophizing, “I can’t!”
What were the three parts of anxiety
body, thoughts, and behavior
What can you do if someone else is not being a good sport?
set boundaries, speak up, I-statements, etc
Role-play a scenario showing teasing versus bullying behaviors and how to handle each situation. Be sure to be assertive!
Assertive behaviors include our posture, eye contact, and tone of voice. The inclusion of "I-statements" is essential as well.
Name some nonverbal behaviors that may impact someone negatively
uninterested facial expression, closed body language, lack of eye contact
What thinking error does this describe:“It’s all about me?""
Personalization
Name one coping thought you could use to help you get through a scary time.
I can handle this, Stay calm, I can get through this, it probably won't be that bad
What are some strategies for dealing with frustration during a game or sport?
Reminding yourself that the purpose of a game is to have fun, Take deep breaths, Tell yourself no one can have a perfect score, Identify where the frustration comes from and if you can do anything about it.
What are the FOUR effective responses to teasing and bullying?
1- Be assertive, but dont overreact
2- Minimize contact with bullies
3- Avoid responding aggressively
4- Got to a trusted adult for help
Describe how you may repair a conversation with a peer after accidentally saying something that impacted them negatively.
Apologize, tell them that wasn't your intention when speaking to them, and carry on the conversation in a new direction.
Role-play the "blaming self/others" thinking habit with your partner.
The Blaming Self thinking error: when something bad happens it is all someone’s fault or all your fault
Demonstrate two different breathing exercises we talked about in group
Box breathing, Belly Breaths, Open mouth exhales, one nostril breathing
Give an example of an I-Statement that can be used in a sports game when your opponent is making rude comments toward you.
" I feel _____ when you_________, please____.