Bullying & Teasing
What is the difference between teasing and bullying?
Teasing is done between friends with a lightheartedness that what is being said isn't meant. Bullying is repeatedly targeted with cruelty that is meant to hurt that person's feelings.
What is flexibility? How might flexibility help us when maintaining a conversation with someone else?
Flexibility is the ability to go with the flow, not being stuck on one topic or thought. It helps keep a conversation dynamic and open to change.
What item did we use in group to show on the mark/off the mark thinking
dart board
Name three examples of anxiety you may feel in your body
dizzy, sweating, fast heart beat, stomach aches, etc.
What does it mean to be a good sport?
trying your best, listening to others, encouraging teammates, etc
What strategies can you take to get help when being bullied?
Name three “Conversation Builders
eye contact, listening to others, raising your hand, etc.
What does all or nothing thinking look like?
thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
Name three places you might feel anger in your body
fists, loud voice, jaw, etc
Name three ways good sportsmanship could be demonstrated during a game
saying “Good game”, continuing to play if losing, trying your best, treating the referee with respect, encouraging your teammates after a mistake
Give an example of teasing and give an example of bullying.
Teasing: Light-hearted, Bullying: cruel and repetitive.
Name three “Conversation Busters”
Interrupting, Not looking at person, yelling, etc.)
Name three of the thinking errors we discussed
Catastrophizing, Personalizing, Filtering, All-or-nothing thinking, "Its not fair!", Blaming others, Should thinking
What were the three parts of anxiety
bodily sensations, thoughts, and behavior
What can you do if someone else is not being a good sport?
set boundaries, speak up, I-statements, be a positive role model
What makes someone an easy target for a bully? What makes someone a difficult target for a bully?
Whining, being overly emotional, not being assertive. Being assertive, using I statements, eye-contact, minimizing contact with the bully.
What is the Say Three and See Rule
After you say three sentences, let others think about what you have said and respond
What thinking error does this describe: "My friend's didn't listen to what I had to say, they probably think I am so stupid."
Name one coping thought you could use to help you get through a scary time.
I can handle this, Stay calm, I can get through this, it probably won't be that bad
How does good sportsmanship help with friendships
helps make and keep friends, people don’t like it when others lose control, helps encourage flexibility in friendships
Is being aggressive a good way to respond to bullying? What might happen if you use aggression.
No, being aggressive may result in a physical altercation that could get you physically hurt, lead to intensified future bullying, or get you into trouble with school administrators.
If you want to keep the conversation flowing, what can you do?
Ask questions – Who, What, Where, When, How
What thinking error does this describe: What if I flunk out of school and become homeless because I failed this math quiz?
Catastrophizing
Name two ways to cope with anger
Progressive muscle relaxation/ tiring out your muscles, changing thinking, stepping away and taking a breath
Give an example of an I statement