Flexibility
What is flexibility?
going with flow, adapting to chang
Name three things you can do to help a conversation feel positive.
eye contact, listening to others, waiting until a pause to speak, etc.
What item did we use in group to show on the mark/off the mark thinking
dart board
Name three places you might feel anxiety in your body
dizzy, sweating, fast heart beat, stomach aches, etc.
What is intent?
What you mean to do or say
Describe two kinds of flexibility
A: Mental Flexibility is being open to all ideas, considering alternatives, and using problem solving; Physical Flexibility describes being able to move body easily into different positions)
Name three things that "hurt" a conversation.
Interrupting, Not looking at person, yelling, etc.)
How does Allie- All-or-Nothing Think?
thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
What were the three parts of anxiety
Thoughts, Body sensations, and behaviors
What is impact?
What actually comes across when you say or do something
Give an example of a time when you felt "mentally stuck"
Any example!
What is the One Minute Rule?
When you join a conversation, wait one minute to listen to the topics of the conversation before you say something.
Name three of the thinking errors we discussed
Sherman Should, Captain Catastrophe, Allie all or nothing, It's not fair Fred, Negative Nelly, Blaming Betty, Polly personal
Name one coping thought you could use to help you get through a scary time.
I can handle this, Stay calm, I can get through this, it probably won't be that bad
Name two things that can make your intent different from your impact?
Word choice, tone of voice, nonverbal behavior etc.
Give an example of a time you were mentally flexible.
Any example!
What is "reciprocity" in a conversation?
When both people in the conversation are taking turns talking about subjects that are interesting to both people.
What thinking error does this describe: “It’s all my fault we lost the game"
Blaming Betty
What 3 things impact your self-esteem?
Your thoughts, feedback from others, events that happen to us
True or False: A bully is more likely to bother a person who is passive, overly cooperative, and has overly emotional responses.
True!
How does mental flexibility help or hurt relationships?
help
If you want to keep the conversation flowing, what can you do?
Ask questions – Who, What, Where, When, How
What are the names of the 2 "bounce back" characters?
Hopeful Holly and Proactive Man
What is self-esteem?
What you think about yourself and your abilities
Give an example of a good way to handle being teased.
Moving away from the person, telling the person to stop, speaking in a firm voice while making eye contact, assertive posture, getting a teacher/adult if you need additional help, acting like you don't care what the person is saying