Intent vs impact/cognitive flexibility
T or F - Sometimes our impact doesn't match our intent, even when we have good intentions
what is true
What are three skills to maintain a conversation?
What is (any of these accepted)
Listening closely, Staying positive, Showing you're listening with verbal/nonverbal cues, Asking open-ended questions, Using Say 3 and See rule, Giving a compliment, Sharing opinions respectfully, Being friendly
What are the THREE Off-the-mark characters we talked about in class?
What is
1) Allie All-or-Nothing
2) Captain Catastrophe
3) Negative Nelly
Name three places where you might feel anxiety in your body
What is (any accepted)
Your head (dizzy), palms sweating, your heart (fast heart beat), your stomach (stomach aches)
What does it mean to be a good sport?
What is trying your best, listening to others, encouraging teammates, etc
Name a cognitively flexible phrase
What is
Bend don't break, Adapt, Shift gears, Let it go, Accept change, Move on, Switch to plan B
What is the Say 3 and See rule?
What is after you say three sentences, let others think about what you have said and respond. (+ finish with a reciprocal question!)
How does All-or-Nothing Think?
What is thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
Name three ways you might feel anger in your body
What is your fists, loud voice, your jaw, etc
Name three ways you can show good sportsmanship
What is
1) Saying “Good game”
2) Not being a ball hog
3) Show respect towards my coach and other players, etc
How does being cognitively flexible help us get along with others?
What is: Helps us...
Cooperate, Collaborate, Compromise, Get along better with others
What are three examples of nonverbal communication?
What is (any accepted)
Smiling, Turning body toward person, Good eye contact, Friendly tone of voice
Name three of the thinking errors we discussed
What is (all accepted)
Shoulds, Catastrophizing, All-or-Nothing, "It's Not Fair!", Filtering, Blaming Others, Personalization
What are three anxiety coping skills?
What is (any accepted)
Take deep belly breaths, Squeeze then relax muscles (progressive muscle relaxation), Think happy thoughts, Take a break or rest, etc
What are three ways to interact with yourself or others when losing?
What is
1) Positive self-talk
2) Responding well to criticism
3) Handling disappointment well, etc
Come up with an example of intending to do something good that does not have the same impact
What is making a joke that sounds like an insult (other examples accepted)
What are two things you can do to start a conversation?
What is
1) Compliment them (not too many times)
2) Ask relevant open-ended questions, eg. "What do you like to do for fun?" (not too many at once)
What thinking error does this describe:“It’s all about me?""
What is personalization?
Name one coping thought you could use to help you get through a scary time.
What is "I can handle this", "Stay calm", "I can get through this", "It probably won't be that bad"
Describe a way you could make amends after demonstrating poor sportsmanship
(Include being honest and apologizing to the other team)
What is the symbol we used when talking about intent vs impact?
What is
A dart board 🎯
Act it Out! Role play a scenario of how to maintain a conversation.
(Remember to enter and exit the conversation appropriately)
What thinking error does this describe? "What if I never make friends ever again?"
What is catastrophic thinking
Name two ways to cope with anger
What is
1) Relaxation strategies
2) Calming/positive self-talk
Give an example of an "I" Statement
what is “I feel _________ when you ________.”