Intent vs Impact
What is Intent?
What someone means to do or say.
What is the ping-pong effect?
what is a way to bounce the conversation back and forth
What item did we use in group to show on the mark/off the mark thinking
What is a dart board
This is a feeling you get when you're nervous, worried, or scared about something that might happen.
What is anxiety?
What does it mean to be a good sport?
what is trying your best, listening to others, encouraging teammates, etc
T or F: : If you didn’t mean to hurt someone, then their feelings don’t matter.
What is False? People’s feelings still matter even if you didn’t mean to hurt them.
Name three “Conversation Builders
eye contact, listening to others, raising your hand, etc.
How does All-or-Nothing Think?
What is thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
Name three places you might feel anger in your body
What is your fists, loud voice, your jaw, etc
Name three ways good sportsmanship could be demonstrated during free time
what is saying “Good game”, "dont give up" and "try your best", etc
Intent is what you meant to do.
Impact is how it made the other person feel.
Name three “Conversation Busters”
Interrupting, Not looking at person, yelling, etc.)
Name three of the thinking errors we discussed
What is Shoulds, Catastrophizing, All-or-Nothing, "It's Not Fair!", Filtering, Blaming Others, Personalization
What were the three parts of anxiety
what is anxious thoughts, what anxiety feels like in your body, and anxious behaviors
What can you do if someone else is not being a good sport?
what is set boundaries, speak up, use I-statements, etc
Name two things you can do when you realize your intent didn’t match your impact
What is?
1. Say you're sorry and explain what you really meant.
2. Reword what you said in a kinder or clearer way.
You’ve been doing a lot of the talking.
What are two ways you can invite your friend to talk more?
What is?
1. Ask, “What do you think?”
2. Pause and give them a chance to speak
What thinking error does this describe:“It’s all about me?""
What is personalization?
You feel nervous before a class presentation. You say to yourself, “I practiced this. I can do it.” This helpful thought is an example of this.
What is positive self-talk?
You feel really upset after a mistake during a game. Name two things you can do to calm down and still be a good teammate.
What are take a deep breath and say something encouraging to myself or others?
Act it Out!: Your friend says a joke they think is funny, but it makes you feel sad. but they said “I was just joking!” What could you say to explain your feelings kindly?
You could say, “I know you didn’t mean to hurt me, but that joke still made me feel bad.”
Act it Out! Role play a scenario of how to maintain a conversation.
(Remember to enter and exit the conversation appropriately)
What thinking error does this describe: What if I never do well in my math class?
what is catastrophic thinking?
When anxiety shows up, this is the skill that helps you notice it, stay calm, and choose what to do next instead of reacting without thinking.
What is self-regulation?
Give an example of an "I" Statement
what is “I feel _________ when you ________.”