Maintaining conversations
What is the ping-pong effect?
a way to bounce the conversation back and forth
What item did we use in group to show on the mark/off the mark thinking
A dart board
Name three places you might feel anxiety in your body
Your head (dizzy), palms sweating, your heart (fast heart beat), your stomach (stomach aches), etc.
Give an example of an "I" Statement
“I feel _________ when you ________.”
Describe self-esteem
Our assessment of our own self-worth, how we view ourselves
Name three ways to have a good conversation
eye contact, listening to others, raising your hand, etc.
Describe All-or-Nothing Thinking
Thinking in extremes; never/always, perfect, failure
Name three places you might feel anger in your body
Your fists, loud voice, your jaw, etc
What does it mean to be a good sport?
trying your best, listening to others, encouraging teammates, etc
Give an example of how others can increase our self-esteem
Receiving compliments and praise, being listened to, etc.
Name three things that you should not do in a conversation
Interrupting, Not looking at person, yelling, etc.
Name three of the thinking errors we discussed
Shoulds, Catastrophizing, All-or-Nothing, "It's Not Fair!", Filtering, Blaming Others, Personalization
Name two ways to cope with anger
calm your body (squeeze-ball) and change your thinking
Name three ways good sportsmanship could be demonstrated during free time
saying “Good game”, continuing to play if losing, trying your best, etc
Give an example of an event that could increase your self-esteem
Wining an award, doing well on a test, scoring a goal, etc.
Act it Out! Role play a scenario of how to maintain a conversation.
(Remember to enter and exit the conversation appropriately)
What thinking error does this describe: What if I can't graduate middle school because I got a C on my last math test?
Catastrophic thinking
Name one coping thought you could use to help you get through a scary time.
"I can handle this", "Stay calm", "I can get through this", "It probably won't be that bad"
What can you do if someone else is not being a good sport?
set boundaries, speak up, use I-statements, etc
Why is positive self-esteem important?
Helps us cope with challenges, maintain a positive attitude, feel good about ourselves, build confidence, etc.
What is the Say Three and See Rule
After you say three sentences, let others think about what you have said and respond
What thinking error does this describe: “It’s all about me?""
Personalization
What were the three parts of anxiety
anxious thoughts, what anxiety feels like in your body, and anxious behaviors
How does good sportsmanship help with friendships
it helps make and keep friends, people don’t like it when others lose control
Name the three ways in which self-esteem develops
From ourselves, from others, and from events