Teasing and Bullying
T or F- Most people have been teased or bullied at some point in their lives.
True! Unfortunately, most people have experienced teasing or bullying at some point in their life.
T or F - our intent and our impact are always the same
False! Sometimes our actions do not have the impact that we intended
T or F - on the mark thinking is more realistic than off the mark thinking
True! On the mark thinking involves examining evidence and challenging your thoughts to think more realistically about your situation
T or F - you might feel anger in different places in your body
True! Some places anger might appear in your body include clenching fists, having a loud voice, clenching your jaw, etc
T or F - An opinion can be "right" or "wrong"
False! Opinions are statements about what we think or feel about something, there is no "right" or "wrong"
Name one way to show assertiveness in a conversation.
1- Posture
2- Eye Contact
3- Tone of Voice
Intent-> ______- >Impact. What belongs in the middle?
Name one of nine the thinking errors we discussed
Shoulds, Its not fair!, Blaming others/self, Personalization, Zooming-in-on-the-negative, Fortune Telling, Mind Reading, Catastrophizing, “I can’t!”
What are the three parts of anxiety?
Body, thoughts, behaviors
True! Being flexible and willing to compromise are important friendship skills
Give an example of an I-Statement
"I feel _______ when you ___________."
Explain what intent means
The intent is what we mean to do or say, it is the message we want to get across.
What thinking error does this describe:“It’s all about me?""
Personalization
Give an example of negative self-talk
It's so unfair, I'm so stupid, nobody understands, today was horrible, etc.
What needs to happen for a conversation to flow?
People talk about the same topic for the same length of time as one another, taking turns
What is one effective response to teasing and bullying?
1- Be assertive, but dont overreact
2- Minimize contact with bullies
3- Avoid responding aggressively
4- Got to a trusted adult for help
Name one step we can take to be more aware of our intentions and the impact of our behaviors
1- Thinking about what we expect to happen before we act
2- Ask yourself if someone said or did the same thing to you, how would it feel
3- Think about the best words and tone of voice to use
What is catastrophizing?
Expecting the worst to happen and expecting to not be able to handle it
Give an example of positive self-talk
I tried my best, I'm a good person, tomorrow will be better, there are a lot of good things in my life, etc.
Explain what it means to be mentally flexible
Being open to considering all ideas and options, avoid getting stuck on one idea, being able to adapt to changes, solving problems in creative ways
What is the difference between teasing and bullying?
Teasing- less severe than bullying, the intention typically isn't to hurt our feelings, sometimes as a hurtful joke.
Bullying- Aggressive and threatening, typically more than one person (bystanders), repeated, intended to hurt our feelings.
Name one way to repair a conversation with a peer after accidentally saying something that impacted them negatively.
Apologize, tell them that wasn't your intention when speaking to them, and carry on the conversation in a new direction.
What is filtering?
Filtering only focuses on a situation's negatives and not the positives.
Name and/or show two different relaxation exercises we talked about and practiced in group
Box breathing, Belly Breaths, Open mouth exhales, guided imagery, melting, grounding (5 senses)
Describe the Say Three and See rule
After saying about three sentences, take a pause and check if others are still interested