Circle of Control
Name 1 thing you CAN control....
Thoughts, feelings, actions, reactions, attitude
What does "being the rule" police mean?
Trying to do the job of a teacher and change other people's behavior
John overhears his friends talking about something that has nothing to do with John. What should he do?
Leave the conversation, don't get involved, don't ask what they are talking about.
Jack tells his friends at recess that Landon tried to beat him up on the way home from school. If you report this, are you tattling or telling.
Telling because someone is being physically harmed
Name one thing that is NOT in your circle of control.
other people's thoughts, actions, reactions, other people's decisions
Ginger picked her nose during math. Should you tell someone about this.
No..that's tattling
Mike always loudly tells his friends to be quiet when they get too rowdy and the lunch table. What might the other kids be thinking....
Mike should mind his own business, Mike is bossy, Mike is always trying to be the rule police.
Lauren is looking on someone else's paper during the spelling test. Should you report this or would that be tattling.
Tattling ...no need to report this
T/F: When we focus only on what we can control, we tend to be less stressed/anxious/angry.
TRUE...focusing on things out of our control can lead to depression, anger, anxiety and other mental health problems.
Dillon gets frustrated when his friends are not doing exactly what the teacher says. What is one thing Dillon can say to himself to help him remember to focus on himself.
I can only control my own thoughts, feelings, actions and reactions, It isn't my job to make sure others are doing what they are told, unless someone is being hurt, it isn't my job to police the rules
Two teachers are talking out front of their classroom about a student who was upset earlier in the day. Natalie walks up to find out what they are talking about. Is Natalie minding her own business?
At recess, Chad found a snake and is poking it with a stick. Should you report this?
Yes...it's telling because Chad could be hurt by the snake
Bob's friends are not supposed to talk while lining up for recess...but they do...What is one thing Bob can control about this situation?
Being a good role model
Leading by example only
Choosing to be quiet and not add to the problem
True or false: worrying about what other people are doing, causes stress, worry, and anger
TRUE
True or false: Other kids get annoyed when you try to do the teacher's job.
TRUE
Give an example of tattling.
Answers may vary
Conor's friends talk very loudly at the lunch table, causing him to get angry and frustrated. Name one way he could he handle this while focusing ONLY on what HE can control?
Ask to be moved to a different table, model voice level for his friends, wear ear plugs during lunch (with teacher permission). Multiple answers possible
Sarah covers her ears and shushes her friends loudly while everyone is lining up for recess.. will this annoy the other kids? Will they want to be friends with her if she continues to behave this way?
Yes...it will annoy the other kids and they probably not want to be friends with Sarah if she keeps behaving this way.
FALSE: unless that student is hurting themselves or others, it is ONLY the teacher's job to correct the student or point out what they are doing
Give an example of reporting/telling
Answers will vary but someone is being harmed emotionally or physically