Rupture 101
Repair Tools
Body & Emotion Cues
Healthy Communication
Wild Card
100

What is a rupture in a relationship?

a break in trust, connection, or understanding between people

100

Name one thing you can say to start a repair after a conflict.

“I’m sorry,” “Can we talk about what happened?” or “I care about our relationship”

100

What is one physical sign your body gives when you're upset or hurt?

a tight chest, stomachache, tension, fast heartbeat, or shaky hands

100

What is one active listening skill?

eye contact, nodding, paraphrasing, or reflecting feelings

100

If connection was a color, what would it be and why?

explore color as a metaphor: blue = calm, yellow = warmth, green = growth

200

Name one emotion that often shows up after a rupture.

sadness, anger, fear, shame, or confusion

200

What is a nonverbal way to show you’re ready to reconnect?

soft eye contact, open posture, calm tone, or a gentle gesture

200

What might your body feel like during a rupture?

closed off, frozen, anxious, heavy, hot, or numb

200

What’s a “you-statement” vs. an “I-statement”? Give an example of an “I-statement.”

"You never listen" vs. "I feel unheard when I speak and don’t get a response"

200

What’s one word you associate with healing?

peace, wholeness, softness, growth, forgiveness, or resilience

300

True or False: Ruptures only happen in unhealthy relationships.

False. Ruptures happen in all relationships — even healthy ones.

300

True or False: Saying "I'm sorry" is always enough to repair a rupture.

False. A real repair often takes listening, accountability, and behavior change.

300

True or False: Emotions can give us information about our needs.

True — Emotions are messengers telling us what matters.

300

Name two signs someone is attuning to you.

eye contact, mirroring tone, validating, or leaning in

300

What’s a metaphor or symbol you would use for repair?

a bridge, thread and needle, gold seams (kintsugi), or a mended heart

400

What are two common causes of rupture?

miscommunication, unmet needs, being ignored, feeling judged, or boundary violations

400

Name 2 steps involved in making a meaningful repair.

taking responsibility, validating feelings, offering a plan to change, or being consistent over time

400

What are two ways to soothe your nervous system when you're dysregulated?

deep breathing, grounding exercises, movement, cold water, or naming the feeling?

400

What does tone of voice have to do with connection?

tone conveys emotion, intention, and safety (or threat)

400

Imagine a superhero whose power is emotional repair. What would they be called?

bonus for creative names like “Mender,” “Heart Glue,” “The Listener”

500

Describe a rupture you've witnessed in a TV show, movie, or book — what caused it?

any answers that show understanding of emotional or relational breakdown.

500

What does “repairing with yourself” mean, and how can you do it?

giving yourself compassion after a mistake — through journaling, reflection, or self-forgiveness

500

Describe a time your body told you something was wrong — even before your mind could explain it.

Look for awareness of somatic cues like tension, instinct, or dread.

500

Roleplay: Someone cuts you off mid-sentence. How do you respond with care and boundaries?

“I’d really like to finish what I was saying,” or “It’s important to me to feel heard”

500

Share a rupture you repaired — what helped most in that process?

Look for awareness of reflection, action, empathy, or communication

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