Relationship Skills
Reach out to someone safe
What is 'Ask for help'?
If you can't totally prevent a self-destructive act, at least delay it as long as possible
What is 'Practice delay'?
Really see the impact for tomorrow, next week, next year
What is 'Think of the consequences'?
In any situation, you have choices
What is 'List your options'?
"No feeling is final"; just get through it safely
What is 'Tolerate the feeling'?
Feet first; just get there and let the rest happen
What is 'Go to a meeting'?
AA, self-help, therapy, medications, groups - anything that keeps you going
What is 'Attend treatment'?
Seek wisdom that can help you next time
What is 'Learn from experience'?
Do what you can to make today better; don't get overwhelmed by the past or the future
What is 'Focus on now'?
Choose whatever will make you like yourself tomorrow
What is 'Choose self-respect'?
Say "no" to protect yourself
What is 'Set a boundary'?
When things go wrong, get out
What is 'Leave a bad scene'?
Self-talk helps in difficult times
What is 'Talk yourself through it'?
A setback is just a setback, nothing more
What is 'Setbacks are not failures'?
Notice what you did right; this is the most powerful method of growth
What is 'Praise yourself'?
Secrets and lying are at the core of PTSD and substance abuse; honesty heals them
What is 'Honesty'?
You'll feel more in control with "to do" lists and a clean house
What is 'Get organized'?
In slow motion, notice the exact moment when you chose a substance
What is 'Notice the choice point'?
What is 'Healing above all'?
The more you practice and participate, the quicker the healing
What is 'Work the material'?
If it can't be fixed, detach
What is 'Let go of destructive relationships'?
Do something that you enjoy (e.g., take a walk, see a movie)
What is 'Self-nurture'?
Think in a way that helps you feel better
What is 'Rethink'?
Face a problem before it becomes huge; notice red flags
What is 'Watch for danger signs'?
Prevent bad situations in advance
What is 'Avoid avoidable suffering'?