Safe House of SEMO
What are the three locations of the Safe House of SEMO?
Shelter, Outreach, and Thrift Store
True or False
When you are helping a friend who is being abused it is best to not ask them questions?
False
You should ask them lots of questions to understand the situation and make them feel heard.
What are the three most common types of abuse?
Physical, verbal and financial.
Spot the RED FLAG: My boyfriend Eric and I just started dating last month. So far, things have been great! I really like him and I can tell that he really likes me because any time I am talking to another guy he comes up and makes it known that he is my boyfriend. Sometimes he gets mad at me for talking to other guys, but I just have to tell him over and over how he is the only guy for me. I even gave him my social media passwords to make him feel more confident.
Getting mad for you talking to other guys.
Getting upset and taking it out on you.
Jealousy.
Getting your passwords.
True of False
Using a weapon is considered physical harm
True
True or False
The Safe House of SEMO does not serve men
False
The Safe House serves anyone who has experienced domestic violence.
What are 3 positive feelings you might experience with a dating partner?
Many correct answers
at peace, blissful, confident, happy, funny, proud,
silly, joyful, or grateful
What is Gaslighting?
Trying to make someone feel crazy or believe something that is not true.
True or False
Your partner has the right to demand your location?
False
What are the presenters names?
Robyn and Danielle
How can you contact the Safe House?
Call the hotline, walk into the outreach office, text the text line or by messaging online or through social media.
What is an example of an immediate calming strategies?
Many correct answers
EX: Take deep breaths, count forwards or backwards, step away from the situation, get outdoors to get some fresh air.
Give an example of why someone might stay in an abusive situation?
Many different answers
EX: The person does not feel safe to leave at that time, the person does not think it is as bad of a situation as it is, the person may not have the knowledge on how to get out of the situation.
Which is NOT an example of a Red Flag:
Demands Passwords
"Love bombing"
Demands location
"All of my exes are crazy"
Likes to hang out with friends a lot
Likes to hang out with friends a lot
True or False
You should make a list of traits you want in a partner and should never date anyone who does not meet all your criteria?False
It is ok to have traits you absolutely need in a partner but no one is perfect and sometimes we have to pivot. Core trails should match up.
What are three services offered by the Safe House?
Case Management
Court Advocacy
Counseling
Substance Use advocate
Support Groups
What are the four safe skills for building equal power through communication?
SAFE
Stay calm
Ask Questions
Find out Feelings
Exchange ideas of a possible solution
What should you do if you are being abused?
Tell a trusted adult
What can you do if you start to notice red flags in your relationship?
Have a discussion with your dating partner about the behaviors.
OR
End the Relationship
What must take place in order for consent to be given?
Must be voluntary
Must be informed
Must have the capacity to make the decision
Must be ongoing
It can be revoked at anytime
No Means No
True or False
Men can stay at the shelter?
True
When helping a friend experiencing abuse, what are the 6 things you can do to help them?
1. Don't gossip
2. Believe the Story
3. Tell the person they didn't deserve to be abused
4. Let your friend make their own decisions
5. Make a safety Plan
6. Give Help
Give two examples of financial abuse.
Many correct answers
EX: making you buy everything, wanting access to your money or accounts. Making you give them your pay check, not allowing you to work.
True or False
You and your partner should have every interest in common?
False
While it is good to have things in common it is also healthy and normal to have separate interests as well.
What is the acronym for building equal power through communication?
S.A.F.E