Feelings
How might someone feel if they are unsafe?
What emotions may they have?
It is okay to say you do not want someone to touch your hair, clothing, etc.
A stranger tells you, "your mom asked me to pick you up from the park! Hop in my car, quick!"
What would you do?
Call someone to make sure they are telling the truth. Scream for help and run away. Say "no" like you mean it.
An adult family member likes to wrestle. You start to wrestle and he touches your private parts. What do you do?
Yell, "no!" Go away from him, tell an adult and if that first adult doesn't protect you tell another adult until someone keeps you safe. Tell a teacher, therapist, doctor, police, etc.
Where are the safest places to hang out with your friends?
Talk about the safest places you like to go
How does someone act when they feel unsafe?
Talk about what might someone do if they do not feel safe
What might someone think if they see two adults fighting in public?
You win a prize at a carnival and the guy who has the prizes says, "I have some big stuffed animals in the back here if you want to look, but you have to keep it a secret."
What do you do?
Say, "no," and find an adult you trust. Call for help. Call 911 if the person doesn't let you say "no" and walk away. Scream.
Your best friend asks you to sneak out at night to explore an abandoned shack you found in the woods that your caregivers said you are not allowed to be in. You are worried that your friend could go alone and get hurt if you do not go with them. What do you do?
Say no, explain why you cannot, if the friend goes anyway you can tell your caregivers who can call their parents. You could call their parents. You could call police. You could tell your friend you will call their mom if they go.
How do you know when a situation is unsafe?
Someone does not let you say no, someone tries to make you do something you don't want to do, someone threatens to hurt themselves or another person if you do not do what they ask, someone touches or talks about your private parts (except for a caregiver or doctor)
What is the hardest feeling to talk about?
Explain why it is hard to talk about
Your friend, Kelly, was hurt by a man in the past and gets very nervous when she has to talk to men or boys. What might she be thinking?
Bonus: What is a more helpful thought Kelly could have?
You are swimming and another kid your age swims up to you and starts touching your private parts. What do you do?
Scream, "no!" Go away from that person. Tell an adult you trust. If they do not help you, tell another adult. Tell the police. Tell a teacher. Tell a doctor. Tell your therapist.
Mom and dad are fighting with their words and they start hitting each other. What do you do?
Go away from them, find a safe place to hide, call for help (another adult you trust, police, 911)
What are the 3 F's of how people react when they feel unsafe?
Fight
Flight
Freeze
(Fawn)
How do you feel when you yell at someone?
How do you feel before?
How about during the yelling?
How do you feel after the yelling is over?
Jake's parents separated and thinks that it is his fault they broke up. What might he be thinking?
Bonus: Is it ever the child's/teenager's fault when parents break up?
You are playing and an adult you do not know is watching you from behind some trees. He has been watching you for a while. What do you do?
Go away from the person, yell if they come near you, call an adult you trust, yell for another person who is with you, call 911 if you are unsafe.
You are staying at a friend's house. Their parents leave the room and they offer you some candy. What do you do?
As their parents if you can have it when they get back, eat the candy
Act out an unsafe situation and pretend to make an unsafe choice, then do it over and make a safe choice
For example: A man walks up to you crying and saying, "I lost my dog! Help me!!!!" What would be unsafe to do? What would be safe to do?
How do you feel when someone hits you?
Bonus: Is it every okay for someone to hit you? If so, when?
What are three things you can think to yourself to remind you that you are safe when you feel scared, nervous, or unsafe?
1. (example) I am safe because I made good choices today
2. (example) I know that if I feel unsafe I can call: _____________________________________
3. (example) I will practice belly breathing until I feel calm about this situation
You are at a store and see your neighbor from down the street. They say, "hi, you look bored. I'm heading home so just come with me and I'll drop you off at your house. You don't need to ask because we know each other."
What do you do?
Ask the adult you came to the store with (call, find them, yell for them), say "no" loudly and walk away, go away from the person, tell an adult who it was and what they asked you to do even if you are safe now
Your friend asks to see your private parts to check if they look like his and shows you his private parts. What do you do?
Say "no," if they do not stop asking/trying, go away from the person, walk away to a safe place, run away if they are trying to hurt you, know that it is not mean to say no!
Share how you think mom, dad, gram, pap, etc. feel when they know you made a safe choice?
They are PROUD of you! They feel safer too. They feel happier to let you go play with friends. They trust you to go more places to have fun.