Plan Ahead
Expected/Unexpected:
You do not ask if there is a theme. You dress up like your favorite anime character. Everyone loves anime like you do, right?
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected- it may be a different theme!
Others might feel confused or unsure.
Expected/Unexpected:
You want to wear your favorite shirt. You get it out of the dirty laundry, shake it out, and spray some air freshener on it.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected: we should not wear dirty clothes to a dance.
Grossed out, confused, unsure.
Expected/Unexpected:
You tell the same joke 10 times. Your friends roll their eyes.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Bored, Annoyed, Irritated, angry
Expected/Unexpected:
You are dancing next to someone and mention how much you like this song. You ask them what bands they like to listen to.
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Happy, included, comfortable
Expected/Unexpected:
You sit at a table with friends. You comment how cool all of the decorations look and how good the DJ is.
How does it make others feel?
Expected: good topic!
Happy, comfortable
Expected/Unexpected:
You want to go to the dance, but you promised your mom that you would watch your baby brother. You decide to bring him to the dance.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected: he is probably not allowed!
Confused, scared, upset.
Expected/Unexpected:
You take the time to wash your hair and put on deodorant before the dance. You feel good and you're ready to go.
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Happy, comfortable
Expected/Unexpected:
You ignore otheres and look at funny cat memes on your phone. You do not dance at all.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
confused, sad, angry, bummed out
Expected/Unexpected:
Someone asks you to join the group to dance. You say "yes" but only talk about how you wish your other friend was there.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Hurt, upset, annoyed,
Expected/Unexpected:
Someone is dancing next to you and accidentally steps on your toes. They apologize and you say it's okay.
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Content, nervous, excited
Expected/Unexpected:
Your parents ask if you are going to the school dance. You do not really want to, but are willing to try it once. They are proud you are being flexible and trying something new!
How does it make others feel?
Expected: good to try to figure out if you like it
Happy, proud, glad
Expected/Unexpected:
You go to basketball practice. You do not have time to shower so you spray on TONS of deodorant.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
uncomfortable, confused
Expected/Unexpected:
You laugh loudly at what others are wearing. Your friends get mad and say you are being mean.
How does it make others feel?
Upset, angry, uncomfortable, hurt
Expected/Unexpected:
You are introduced to a new friend. You start telling them all about your rotten sandwich you found in your lunch.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Disgusted, confused, unsure, uncomfortable
Expected/Unexpected:
You are looking at someone's outfit. You stare too long and the person gets mad at you.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected:
Uncomfortable, upset, confused
Expected/Unexpected:
You are nervous about the dance. You talk about it with your friends for weeks, even when they look bored and irritated.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected: talking about a topic for too long can make others frustrated
Upset, annoyed, bothered, irritated
Expected/Unexpected:
You have a salad with tons of onions in it. You do not want to brush your teeth and your friends will not care.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Uncomfortable, grossed out, disgusted
Expected/Unexpected:
Everyone is taking a break from dancing to get a drink together. You ask your friends if they have seen the new superhero movie and if they liked it?
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Comfortable, happy, included
Expected/Unexpected:
You are dancing and might not like someone's outfit. You yell to your friend loudly that you do not like their outfit.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Uncomfortable, unsure, embarrassed
Expected/Unexpected:
A group invites you to dance. You smile, dance, and start talking to them about the music. You thank them for inviting you to dance when you are done.
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Happy, comfortable, included, content
Expected/Unexpected:
It is time to go to the dance! When your mom asks you when and where she needs to pick you up, you do not know. She is frowning and has her arms crossed.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected: important to have a plan!
Upset, frustrated, angry
Expected/Unexpected:
You check the mirror before you leave and notice you have something in your teeth. You have just enough time to brush your teeth before you leave.
How does it make others feel?
Expected
Happy, comfortable, content
Expected/Unexpected:
You feel nervous about the dance. You take a break outside, take 5 breaths, and go back inside.
How does it make others feel?
Expected:
Happy, Proud, Calm, Content
Expected/Unexpected:
The cool boys are using swear words when talking to others. You start using swear words when talking to your friends. Your friends end the conversation early.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Uncomfortable, unsure, unsafe
Expected/Unexpected:
Your favorite song comes on. You dance and have fun. The next song plays and you "boo" the DJ and tell them they are the worst.
How does it make others feel?
Unexpected
Uncomfortable, confused, upset, hurt