Calming Down
What are the three calming down steps?
Stop, Name your feeling, Calm down
What are the four problem solving steps? (STEP)
Say the problem
Think of solutions
Explore consequences
Pick the best solution
What does it mean to be assertive?
Telling someone what you need or want in a respectful, confident way (eye contact, standing up straight, confident voice, respectful words).
___________ is feeling or understanding what someone else is feeling.
Empathy
How do you recognize when someone is bullying? (Hint: MOOO)
Name two strong feelings.
Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous, excited, worried, etc.
If you are mad at someone because of a problem, what should you do BEFORE using the problem solving steps?
Calm down! (use the calming down steps)
You were having trouble paying attention when your teacher explained what to do for a social studies project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is: a. Just do the project the way you want b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it c. Read a book instead d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it.
Where do you look to find clues about how someone else is feeling?
Their face and body
What is a bystander?
A bystander is someone who sees or knows about bullying happening.
Name two of the three examples of the calming down step.
Breathe, count, use positive self-talk
Name two blaming words that you should not use when trying to say the problem.
Never, always, made me, on purpose, your fault, etc.
What does it mean to be passive?
Being passive is when someone shows less confidence or seems shy or nervous (no eye contact, shy voice, slouched body language).
It's not bad to be passive, but people may not listen to you if you speak in a passive way.
You are talking to a classmate in the hallway before school. She just had an argument with her best friend. You are listening to her as she tells you how sad she is feeling. You understand how she feels. You've felt sad after having an argument with a friend too.
You are:
a. Feeling happy that you are not her
b. Having empathy for her
c. Thinking she will not have many friends
b. Having empathy for her
Name two things that a bystander can do to help someone who is being bullied.
A bystander can report to an adult, can stand up to the bully (be assertive), can be kind to the person being bullied and/or include them in something (like a game or an activity).
Give two different examples of a stop signal.
Stop, Chill, Hold on, Hang on, Chillax, Take a chill pill, etc.
Johnny and Bob are having a problem: they both want to check out the same book from the library. They say the problem without blaming each other. Now they have to think of solutions.
What are two safe and respectful solutions to their problem?
Various Answers (they can do rock paper scissors, they can share the book by switching every day, they could choose another book, etc.)
You are waiting in line to get your lunch and another student cuts in front of you. You decide to let them cut and pout the rest of lunch. This is an example of what ? (Remember there are 3 choices)
passive
George's older brother gave him his old bike. George is very excited. He rides the bike to your house to meet you. Unfortunately, on the way to your house something hits his wheel and bends the spokes. He is very disappointed . How would you should empathy?
Offer to help him fix it, offer to help him get the bike home, reassure him that it will be ok
Every day when Judy is walking home from school, Evelyn walks behind her and calls her names. When Judy walks faster, Evelyn runs ahead of her and yells mean things back.
Is this bullying? Why or why not?
Yes this is bullying because Evelyn is being mean on purpose, it has been on going and it is one-sided.
Give 2 examples of positive self-talk.
It will be okay.
I can do this.
I'm sure there's a way we can work this out.
I'm no big deal.
etc.
It’s recess, and you and your friend want to play basketball but Jessie and Alex are already playing there...again! They’ve played basketball at recess for the last two days. You have a problem. How can you say the problem in a way that doesn’t blame anyone?
a. Jessie and Alex are hogging the basketball, and they never share with anyone else.
b. We all want to play basketball at the same time, and there is just one basketball.
c. Jessie and Alex always get to do what they want—it’s not fair
b. We all want to play basketball at the same time, and there is just one basketball
What does being aggressive mean ?
yelling at others, being disrespectful, not being kind
Your best friend lost their cat. How can you show him/her empathy?
Various Answers: For example, Listen, say "I'm so sorry your cat is lost", help them look for the cat, make him/her a card, etc.
Act it out!
Rick has long hair and likes to play tag with the girls at recess. Steven has been calling Rick a "girlie girl" and sometimes hides so that he can trip Rick as he runs by. You are a bystander and you want to help Rick.
(Act it out)