Empathy & Learning Skills
If I am listening with attention, what I am I doing?
Focusing on the words
Sitting Still
Looking at the person who is talking
Being Quiet-not talking to my classmates
What are all of the Problem Solving Steps in order?
Say the Problem
Think of Solutions
Explore Consequences
Pick the Best Solution
What is an emotion?
An emotion is the way people respond to a situation that is happening.
Examples are happy, sad, mad, etc.
Why is it important to manage our emotions and keep them under control
Because if we don't we might make bad choices like hurting someone or making the situation worse.
TRUE or FALSE
Consequences are always a bad thing. There is no such thing as a good consequence.
FALSE
What does the word "Empathy" Mean?
Walking in someone else's shoes or understanding how someone else might feel
Before we can start solving the problem, what do we need to do first?
HINT: It is not a part of the "STEP". We have to do this before we start "STEP"
Calm Down
TRUE or FALSE
Everyone responds the same way when something bad happens. For example, everyone would feel sad if they had to work alone on a school project.
No, all people are different and not everyone will have the same emotion when something happens
The 1st step in managing our emotions is to STOP and tell ourselves a "stop-signal".
What is one example of a phrase people tell themselves when they need to STOP.
Hold on
Wait a minute
Calm down
Hold up
Jesus take the wheel
When a situation "escalates" it means that the situation __________________.
Gets bigger or gets worse
If a classmate I don't like tripped and fell in class, how could I respond in an empathetic way?
Not laugh and help the person up
Not laugh and say something like "I hate it when I fall, too. Are you hurt?/Are you okay?"
James and Katie are fighting over who gets to be the project leader. Katie says "you always get to be in charge. I want to do the project this way so you need to listen up!"
How could Katie say the problem in a way that doesn't blame anyone?
We both want to be the project leader
OR
I feel upset because I want to be project leader but I never get to be the leader
Sam gets really nervous before a test. Sometimes Sam's hands shake and he has a hard time focusing. Sam thinks to himself- "I am going to fail."
What is the emotion that Sam is having?
HINT: It is similar to nervous but a different emotion word.
Anxious or Anxiety
Being Assertive is the best way to communicate.
What are the other two types of communication that are not as helpful.
Passive
Aggressive
Joe asked the teacher to use the restroom and the teacher said no even though two other students went to the bathroom and just came back.
Joe assumes that "the teacher hates me."
What are two other possible reasons why the teacher said no?
Another class is taking a bathroom break at the moment
- The teacher is about to start the lesson or make an important announcement
- The last time Joe went to the bathroom he took advantage of the teacher by taking too long
- The janitor is cleaning the bathroom
If I am saying "No, I don't want to do that." in an assertive way. What does that look like?
You may say or act out the answer
speaking clearly
speaking loud enough for the other person to hear
Not yelling
Respecting the other person's space
Making eye contact
Using respectful words & tone of voice
My chin is up and shoulders are back
Sometimes, solutions to our problems are hard to carry out and take time. We have to make a plan.
You are helping your friend make a plan. What are the important things your friend should do when making a plan?
Write down multiple steps
Put the steps in order
Think about the amount of time the plan will take
True or False
Emotions are felt both our body and brain.
True
Name the 3 steps to managing an emotion in order
STOP
Name Your Feeling
Calm Down
In life there are people who look at a glass and see it as being "half-full".
These people usually look for the positives in life. They tend to be happy more often and believe that things will work out even if it's not looking good right away.
These people are described as __________________.
Optimistic
When I am working on a team. What are 4 things that a good teammate does?
Compromises when there is a disagreement
Listens to others when they share ideas
I share my own ideas
Refrain from talking about things unrelated to the task at hand
Participate
Make sure that everyone has a job to do
Use an assertive tone of voice
Respects other people's space and boundaries
There are two main parts of the brain: the emotional part and the thinking part.
If I am using the hand-brain model, which finger(s) represent the "thinking" center of the brain
The four fingers on top because they represent the "Cortex"
What part of the brain is our "feeling alarm"? This part of the brain takes over and causes our body to have strong emotions.
HINT: Starts with the letter "A"
Amygdala
1 or 2 members of your group must demonstrate belly breathing.
Hand on belly
Breathe in through nose
Out through mouth
Respecting other people's boundaries is an important part of being a good person.
What are 3 types of boundaries we learned in class?
Physical
Intelectual
Conversational/Emotional