Calming Down
What are some situations in which you might need to calm down?
Someone cut in front of you in the lunch line, someone called you a mean name, you're having a disagreement with a friend or family member, you have to do school work and it's hard...
What is the first step to take when you have a problem?
Say the problem without blame.
What does it mean to be respectful?
being helpful, polite, fair, and kind
using good manners, saying hello, not being mean, not calling names, not using put-downs
What is the word that means "understanding how someone else is feeling?"
Empathy
What are two body parts you can use to be a good listener?
Eyes, ears, brain
Name two strong feelings.
Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous, excited...
What is the second step when you have a problem?
Think of solutions that are safe and respectful.
What is a put-down?
Something you say to make another person feel bad.
Who can you have empathy for?
Classmates, teachers, friends, parents, EVERYBODY
Which three things are important to show that you are listening with attention:
1. Focus on the person's words
2. Interrupt
3. Ask questions to find out more
4. Repeat what you heard to show that you understand
1, 3, 4
What are some things you can do to help you calm down?
Breathe, count, use positive self-talk
What is the third step to take when you have a problem?
Explore consequences: what could happen if...
Some kids at recess are starting to play a game. It looks like it could be fun. Which of the following is the best way for you to join in?
a. Aggressively say that you know all about how to play the game
b. Wait a long time for them to ask you if you want to play
c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
d. Wait until they start playing, then ask them to stop what they are doing and let you play.
c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
Understanding how someone else is feeling.
When you ask for what you want or need in a calm, firm way, you are being:
a. assertive
b. passive
c. aggressive
a. assertive
Name the 3 calming-down steps.
Stop, name your feeling, calm down
What is the final step to take when you have a problem?
Pick the best solution and make your plan
Name someone in your class who you think is very respectful.
(Respectful student name)
Garrett's older brother gave him his old bike. Garrett is very excited. He rides the bike to the park to meet you. Unfortunately, on the way to the park, he gets a flat tire and had to walk to the park. He is very disappointed. What is a compassionate thing you could do for Garrett?
a. Tell him "it's just a bike- no big deal"
b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it
c. It's best not to say anything
d. Wish Garrett had gone a different way to the park
b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it
You were having trouble paying attention when your teacher explained what to do for a social studies project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is:
a. Just do the project the way you want
b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it
c. Read a book instead
d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it
Give 2 examples of positive self-talk.
I'm sure there's a way we can work this out. I'm not going to make a big deal out of this. I can get through this. I can do this.
What is a problem that a second (or third) grader might have?
Not wanting to do their schoolwork, not getting the lunch they wanted, forgetting their homework, not having a friend to play with...
being kind to family members, following directions from parents, doing what is expected
Your best friend's dog died. How can you show them empathy?
Listen to them. Say, "I'm so sorry for your loss." Make them a card.
What does it mean to be assertive?
Asking for what you need or want in a respectful, calm, and firm voice.