Calming Down
Problem Solving Steps
Respect
Empathy
Skills for Learning
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What are some situations in which you need to calm down?

What is: Someone cut in front of you in the lunch line

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What is the first step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Say the problem: without blame.
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What does it mean to be respectful?
What is: being helpful, polite, fair, using good manners, saying hello, not being mean, not calling names, not using put-downs.
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You are talking to a classmate in the hallway before school. She just had an argument with her best friend. You are listening to her with attention as she tells you how sad she is feeling. You understand how she feels. You've felt sad after having an argument with a friend too. You are: a. Feeling happy that you are not her b. Having empathy for her c. Thinking she will not have many friends d. Wondering why she is so sad
What is: b. Having empathy for her
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What is self-talk?

The voice inside of your head. Your thoughts. Can be positive or negative.

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Name two strong feelings.

What is: Frustrated, angry, mad, sad, nervous

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What is the second step when you have a problem?
What is: Think of solutions: safe and respectful
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What is a put-down?
What is: Something you say to make another person feel bad.
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Who can you have empathy for?
What is: Classmates, teachers, friends, parents, EVERYBODY
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What should you do to listen with attention?
What is: Focus on the person's words, don't interrupt, ask questions to find out more, repeat what you heard to show you understand
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What are some things you can do to help you calm down?

What is: Breathe, count, use positive self-talk

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What is the third step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Explore consequences: what could happen if...
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Some kids at the after-school program are starting to play a board game. It looks like it could be fun. Which of the following is the best way for you to join in? a. Aggressively say that you know all about how to play the game b. Wait a long time for them to ask you if you want to play c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too. d. Wait until they start playing, then ask them to stop what they are doing and let you play.
What is: c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
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Your best friends dog died. How can you show him/her empathy?
What is: Listen, say "I'm so sorry for your loss", make him/her a card, etc.
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What does it mean to be assertive?
What is: Asking for what you need or want in a respectful, calm, and firm voice.
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Give 2 examples of positive self-talk.
What is: I'm sure there's a way we can work this out. I'm not going to make a big deal out of this.
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What is the final step to take when you have a problem?
What is: Pick the best solution: make your plan
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Someone takes the ball you were playing with. You yell at them and call them names to get them to give it back. You then go over and shove them. Is this a safe and respectful solution?

No

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Garrett's older brother gave him his old bike. Garrett is very excited. He rides the bike to the park to meet you. Unfortunately, on the way to the park something hits his wheel and bends the spokes. he is very disappointed. What is a compassionate thing you could do for Garrett? a. Tell him "it's just a bike- no big deal" b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it c. It's best not to say anything d. Wish Garrett had gone a different way to the park
What is: b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it
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You were having trouble paying attention when your teacher explained what to do for a social studies project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is: a. Just do the project the way you want b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it c. Read a book instead d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
What is: b. Assertively ask your teacher how to do it
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