Calming Down
What are some situations in which you need to calm down?
What is: Examples will vary, like: Someone cut in front of you in the lunch line
What does it mean to be respectful?
What is: be helpful, be polite, use respectful words, good manners, not being mean, not calling names, not using put-downs.
You see your classmate and notice she looks sad. She just had an argument with her best friend. You are listening to her with attention as she tells you how sad she is feeling. You understand how she feels. You've felt sad after having an argument with a friend too. You are:
a. Feeling happy that you are not her
b. Having empathy for her
c. Thinking she will not have many friends
d. Wondering why she is so sad
What is: b. Having empathy for her
Name two strong feelings.
What is: Afraid, Angry, Disappointed, Depressed
A put-down is something someone says to make another person feel _____.
upset, bad, sad, or mad
When you work with a partner, what should you do to listen with attention?
What is: Face your partner, (knee-to-knee)
don't interrupt (take turns)
remember what you hear
ask questions to find out more.
What are some things you can do to help you calm down?
What is: Breathe, count, use positive self-talk
Some kids at latchkey after school are starting to play a board game. It looks fun. Which of the following is the best way for you to join in?
a. Aggressively say that you know all about how to play the game
b. Wait a long time for them to ask you, if you want to play.
c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
d. Wait until they start playing, "stop playing, and let me play.
What is: c. Ask a question about the game, then politely ask if you can play too.
Empathy is understanding how someone feels. Compassion is _____________ in action!
What is: Empathy
What is: Asking for what you need or want in a respectful, calm, and firm voice.
What does it mean to be assertive?
Which skill for learning is...
Focus on the person talking and wait your turn. Remember what you hear and think of questions to ask?
What is...
Listen
Garrett rides his bike to the park to meet you. On the way to the park something hits his wheel and bends the spokes. He is very disappointed. What is a compassionate thing you could do for Garrett?
a. Tell him "it's just a bike- no big deal"
b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel, and you can ask an adult to help fix it.
c. It's best not to say anything.
d. Wish Garrett had gone a different way to the park.
What is: b. Tell him you are sorry about the wheel and you can ask an adult to help fix it.
You were having trouble paying attention when the teacher explained what to do for a math project. Now everyone is getting started, and you don't know what you're supposed to do. The best thing to do is: a. Just do the project the way you want
b. Try first, then ask a neighbor, next you must wait to assertively ask your teacher how to do it.
c. Read a book instead
d. Wait quietly at your desk and hope someone comes to help you
What is: b. Try first, then ask a neighbor, next you must wait to assertively ask your teacher how to do it.
After you have empathy for someone, what is it called when we say something or do something kind?
What is Compassion
How can you focus your attention and ignore distractions?
What is... Turn on your attent-o-scope
use self-talk