Values & Identity
What is a value?
a belief or principle that guides a person’s choices and behavior
What is the difference between responsibility and accountability?
Responsibility = Doing what’s expected or needed
Accountability = Owning your choices and their impact
What does having grit mean?
It means that you have the ability to keep going even when something is hard
Persevering through challenges without giving up
What is an I-statement?
A respectful way to express feelings without blaming
Define what is means to be courageous?
Doing what is right even when it feels uncomfortable, risky, or difficult
What is identity?
How a person sees themselves, including their values, beliefs, traits, and experiences
What is the difference between intent and impact?
Intent is what you meant to do; impact is what actually happened
Name one strategy we discussed for using grit when you feel like quitting
Breaking tasks down, asking for help, positive self-talk, adjusting the goal
What is the difference between empathy and sympathy?
Sympathy is feeling for someone and Empathy is feeling with someone.
Sympathetic response: "Oh, that's rough, sorry you're dealing with that!"
Empathetic response: "Ugh, that sounds awful, I've been there and it totally sucks. I'm here if you want to vent/cry/stare at the ceiling with me."
Name one healthy way to respond to conflict instead of avoiding it or escalating it
Using I-statements, active listening, taking responsibility, or seeking mediation
Name two things that can influence a person’s identity
Values, religion, experiences, beliefs, culture, family, friends, personal traits
Name 3 reasons why people sometimes make choices they know aren’t the best?
Strong emotions can take over thinking, Peer pressure
Short-term rewards feel better than long-term consequences
Stress or tiredness cloud judgment
Fear of being judged or getting in trouble
Lack of impulse control
Use two descriptions each to describe what a "broken bridge" and a "rebuilt bridge" looks like
Broken Bridge: ignoring, talking behind someone’s back, tension, awkwardness, anger, etc.
Rebuilt Bridge: apologies, trust, talking again, laughing, working together, etc.
Define social awareness
noticing and understanding others’ emotions and perspectives, even when they differ from our own (also known as perspective taking)
What emotion is courage most often connected to?
Fear
How do values and identity connect to each other?
Values help shape a person’s identity, and a person’s identity influences the choices they make
How can taking responsibility change how others see and trust you?
You will be seen as honest, mature, and having integrity
What are the three keys for mending bridges?
forgiveness: choosing to move forward
humility: willing to admit your part; "I was wrong"
teamwork: work together against the problem
Name the three reasons why I statements are effective
They show respect by avoiding blame
They show fairness by stating facts, not attacks
They show open-mindedness by expressing what you need, not controlling others
What are the three ways in which you are building your legacy right now?
How you treat people
How you respond when things are hard
What you stand for
Why is self-awareness important when identifying your values?
it helps you understand what matters to you and make choices that match who you are
What are the three parts involved for taking responsibility for your actions?
- admitting what you did that was wrong
- apologizing for the specific behavior/repair
- accepting the consequences/fix the behavior
Describe the 4 rounds of the peace circle conversation?
Round 1 – What Happened?
Round 2 – Feelings & Impact
Round 3 – Taking Responsibility
Round 4 – Mending the Bridge
Give me an example of a four part I statement
Name the 5 ways a student can advocate when another student is being wronged that were taught to you (100 points per correct answer)
Use a simple statement
Ask a question
Offer support
Get help
Model kinder behavior