SEL Competencies
SEL Tools

Why  are deescalation techniques used?

De-escalation techniques are used to deter and/or calm students down from situations that might otherwise escalate into violent behaviors.


This competency focuses on applying tools to manage one's emotions such as calming strategies. 

What is self-management?


Inhale in, hold, exhale out

What is deep breathing?


Self care is not selfish. True or False

True. You can not serve from an empty vessel.


What are some symptoms of trauma?

Behavior problems, trouble concentrating, not getting work done, clingy, sleepy, body aches and pains, sensitive to sounds, life in meaningless, and withdraw from family.


Personal space, body language, and listening skills can help effectively de-escalate the disruptive behavior of those in your care. True or False?



This competency focuses on understand one's on strengths, limitations and emotions.

What is self-awareness?


Can be used to build and restore a class community with structured questions, opening and closing.

What are restorative circles?


Self care is important. It improves what 4 things?

According to, is improves your mental health, physical health, spiritual health, and lifestyle health.


What are some ways to handle behavior problems due to trauma?

Have patience with minor behavior problems. Stay calm when setting limits. Return to predictable school routines and activities as soon as possible. Refer students for professional help for any concerns about self-injury or dangerous behaviors.


What are some deescalation techniques you can use to deescalate and angry child?

1.  Appear calm and self-assured

2. Maintain a neutral facial expression

3.Maintain a neutral facial expression

4. Allow space

5. Lower your voice and keep your tone even. 6.Distraction and diversion are extremely useful.

7. Have the child perform breathing exercises.


This competency focuses on understanding others, showing empathy and celebrating diversity. 

What is social awareness?


Can be used virtually or in a classroom to help student calm themselves. Items may including calming coloring pages, coping skills list, feelings charts and sensory tools. 

What is a peace(ful) corner?


What are some ways to practice self care?

Make a date with yourself; Take a class for fun; Exercise; Pray/Meditate; Take a long bath; Eat something you enjoy; journal; go on vacation; take a nap; and praise yourself.


When a student feels that life is meaningless, how can you help them?

Suggest engaging in positive activities (e.g., volunteering, hobbies). Discuss ways to cope with sad feelings and the value of in-person support, talking with family or friends, rather than connecting via media. Discuss ways to support students with other adults they trust.


When a student is angry and escalated, it is important to block exit routes. True or False.


  • According to Intervention Central, Do not block escape routes. When individuals are agitated, they are more likely to experience a 'fight-or-flight' response that can express itself in the need to have escape routes available. When engaging a student in a de-escalation conference, do not position yourself between the student and the door. If the student says, "Get out of my way", step back to give that student additional personal space and reposition yourself out of his or her potential escape path.

This competency focuses on building and maintaining relationship with others and learning conflict resolution skills. 

What is relationship skills?


This calming technique helps you recenter and bring you to the present/into the current space you're in. 

What is grounding?


What are some affects of poor self care?

relationship problems, health problems, uncompleted goals, lack of energy, depressions, insomnia, suicide, and envying of others. 


What are some ways that you can help students who have sleeping problems?

Realize that sleep difficulties are common and can lead to fatigue and poor participation. Suggest healthy sleep habits (e.g. a break from screens before bed) and calming coping strategies. Consider adjusting deadlines until sleep is stabilized.


When a student is angry and escalated, limit the number of adults involved. True or False.


According to Intervention Central, having too many educators participating in a de-escalation conference can be counter-productive because of possible confusion and communication of mixed messages to the agitated student. If more than one adult is available in the instructional setting, select the one with the most experience with de-escalation techniques to engage the student one-to-one, while the additional educator(s) continue to support the instruction or behavior management of other students.


This competency focuses on social/behavior norms and constructs including following expectations as well as making good choices. 

What is responsible decision making?


This calming technique includes calming music (may include instruments such as a singing bowl) and a person in a low tone helping you recenter and deep breathe. 

What is guided meditation?


Having self compassion is a key component of self care. True or False?

True. Self care is regarding yourself compassionately. Self-compassion is the practice of showing yourself the same compassion you would show someone you care about in moments of failure or difficulty.


What are some ways that you can help students that are traumatized and have difficulty completing their work?

Understand that attention and doing classroom activities may be affected. Focus on the present with gentle reminders about daily tasks. Consider modifying work or providing extra structure and instructions.

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