I Statements
What is the first step of an I Statement?
I Feel ________
What is a personal boundary?
Establishing rules of how you would like others to treat you
What is personal space?
The physical space you feel comfortable having someone near you
What's a conflict?
A problem between people
Name a character trait of a good friend
Honest
Loyal
Trusting
Funny
Smart
Kind
Why do we use I Statements when we talk about our feelings?
Is it okay to establish personal boundaries with friends?
Yes-- boundaries help your friends learn how to be a better friend to you
Is it okay to tell someone you feel they are invading your personal space?
Yes- it is healthy to tell others when they are making you uncomfortable
Is it okay to have a conflict with a friend?
Yes-- it is okay to have occasional arguments with friends if the friends can work together to fix the problem
What are some negative character traits of friends?
Dishonest
Unkind
Mean
Untrustworthy
What is the last step of an I Statement?
And I want _________
Is it okay for a student to establish a boundary with their teacher?
Yes-- it is okay to set boundaries with teachers if you feel uncomfortable about something that has happened as long as it is done in an appropriate way
Most likely
Who can you talk to if you have a conflict with someone and need help solving the problem?
Yes it is a good thing for your friends to have other friends outside of you
What are all the steps of an I Statement?
I feel ________
When you __________
Because__________
And I would like _________
Can you use an I Statement to establish a boundary?
Yes
Do you think it would make you feel uncomfortable if a person you did not know was standing directly next to you for a long period of time without saying anything?
Most likely
An I Statement
You tell your friend about something super exciting happening to you next week-- they turn the conversation around to something negative that is happening to them ("I wish that was happening to me.."). How does this make you feel?
It is okay to feel bad/disappointed when you tell a friend positive news and they don't show the same level of excitement.
Ethan finished the puzzle that Tyler was working on when Tyler was absent. Tyler was upset when he came in and noticed the puzzle he was working on was done when he was not at school. Prepare an I Statement of how Tyler could be feeling
I felt Upset
When you finished my puzzle when I was absent
Because I was working hard on that
And I would like You to not do that again in the futureIs personal space part of setting personal boundaries?
Yes
Practice using an I Statement to tell someone they are invading your personal space
I Feel Uncomfortable
When You Stand this close to me
Because I like to have this much space away from others when I talk to them
And I would like You to respect that boundary
If you and a friend want help resolving a conflict after you have talked through the problem, who can you talk to for help?
A counselor, a teacher, a coach, or a trusted adult
You tell your friend a secret, you did not ask your friend not to tell anyone else but you figured it was understood that they would keep it to themselves. They tell another friend. How does this make you feel?
It is okay to feel upset when someone shares information you did not want shared. Since you did not explicitly tell your friend that it was a secret, try establishing a boundary with that friend so they know not to do that again in the future